50 Things Women Wish Men Knew

1. Saying "I love you" immediately before, during, or following sex doesn't count.

2. Real men drive stick shift.

3. I will leave if you lie.

4. You are cute in raglan-sleeved T-shirts (two-toned baseball undershirts).

5. I'm convinced I'm pregnant and obsess about it for a minimum of 24 to 48 hours before my period, even when I have no rational reason to think so.

6. I love it when you hug me from behind and whisper in my ear.

7. "Fine" is never an appropriate response when I ask you how I look.

8. Most of the time when I fantasize, it's about you.

9. I'm terrified of becoming my mother, even though I admire her.

10. I get turned on simply seeing that I have an e-mail from you.

11. I expect you to call me.

12. Only rock stars are allowed to wear leather pants.

13. I'm scared of losing my independence.

14. I'm more forgiving of you than I really should be.

15. Oral sex is your get-out-of-the-doghouse-free card. Manolo Blahnik shoes also do the trick.

16. You did something bad. I seem cool with it. I'm not. (See directly above.)

17. If I'm not having sex with you, I'm . . . a.) . . . having a fat day. b.) . . . not feeling "connected" to you. c.) . . . blackmailing you to get something I want.

18. Shoes determine whether you're fashionable or not.

19. I own a Debbie Gibson CD, and I'm not afraid to use it.

20. When I compare my flabby tummy to a kangaroo pouch, say nothing.

21. A man I love plans the occasional fancy-schmancy dress-up date and impromptu weekend getaways, and he buys my favorite candy in advance when we're just going to the movies.

22. You look hot in hooded clothing items.

23. You should never tell me what to do.

24. If I slept over, you owe me breakfast.

25. My breasts love much licking and sucking.

26. If you ask me out directly, I will say yes.

27. I'm very impressed when you ask for my advice.

28. I'm unimpressed with a man who doesn't take the lead.

29. When in doubt, go with the shirt that matches your eye color.

30. I want to be Madonna.

31. Women get urinary-tract infections easily, so watch (and wash) your fingers.

32. I'm in heaven when you hold my hand.

33. You're sexy when you're: shaving, fixing things, wearing a white T-shirt and jeans, driving, eating a peach, holding a baby.

34. I need to hear how you feel about me. Often. Tell me now.

35. Surprises, especially gifts for moi = more loving.

36. I want to be the best thing that ever happened to you—and for you to recognize this.

37. If I'm not feeling loved, I will start looking . . .

38. Discussion of ex-gf's and ex-bf's should be avoided at all times.

39. I like it when you tell me what you're thinking, even if you don't know yourself. 

40. Celebrating our anniversary, even if it's only been a few months, earns major bonus points.

41. I love it when you're sweaty.

42. It's best to consult your gal pals for gift ideas.

43. A lady should always be greeted with kisses.

44. I like porn.

45. I love holding your bum in the palms of my hands.

46. Even nice girls like hushed dirty talk in public.

47. It's cheating as soon as you're doing something with her that you wouldn't want me to see, hear, read . . .

48. For the record: I'd rather you break up with me than cheat.

49. I remember everything about our relationship.

50. You should know all this and more without my telling you.

The Top 10 Signs She's Interested in You

Some women go out looking for sex. Here's how to find them and make it happen. 

1. She's Chatting Up the Bartender
A flirtatious woman can hardly contain herself. She won't let a male waiter or bartender take her order without flashing a smile and saying something silly, like, "What can you make me that would be really yummy?"

2. She's Scanning the Room
When women go out to bond with friends, they have blinders on. If they're not looking around, don't bug them. But when they want to mingle, they'll be scanning for cute men. They may even sit facing the room instead of each other.

3. She's Playing Games
Darts, pool, pinball—women know this makes them easier to approach. That's why they do it. It's easy to get a man's attention when you're about to jab him in the ribs with a pool cue.

4. Her Drink is Big, Frozen, and Blue
She's ready to party, which means meeting new people and having a good time, not getting naked with the first guy who buys her another round. But sometimes it does mean getting naked with the first hot, cool guy who buys her another round.

5. She Sends You a Zoolander Eye Lock
And the eyebrow raise, and/or at least two smiles (full, open-lipped, teeth smiles). Go over there and talk to her already. Caveat: There's a small chance she just thinks you're funny looking, but go ahead, have some balls. She's worth it.

6. Her Pupils are Dilated
If she's feeling stimulated by you (not just sexually), her pupils will dilate. That's because her body is programmed to want to see more of whatever's exciting her, so her brain tells her irises to let in more light. Time to make your move.

7. She Lets You Get Close
As you flirt, stand or sit within 6 inches of her. If she seems unruffled, move closer. Eventually you want your thigh to be pressed against hers, whether you're standing or sitting. If she's into it, she won't back off.

8. She's a Chatterbox
If she leans forward when you're talking or asks you endless questions, the only way to shut her up is to kiss her.

9. She Uses Her Tongue
A make-out session is a prerequisite to any sexual proposition. Kiss her lips softly and note how intensely she's kissing back. You want the "I want to eat you alive" kind of kiss, not the sweet "I'm not a dirty girl" kind of kiss.

10. She's Wearing Thigh-High Stockings
Women only wear sexy underthings when they're expecting a man to see them. If she's wearing a thong, she's trying to avoid panty lines, but sex is on her mind, too. Anything black, red, pink, leopard print, or lace equals "I want you."

The Truth Behind the 12 Hottest Sex Myths

1. Men Reach Their Sexual Peak at 18, and Women Reach Theirs at 28
TRUE: With regard to their supply of sexual hormones, at least. Testosterone peaks at age 18 in men; women's estrogen hits its high point in their mid-20s. "But peak hormones don't mean peak sexual performance," says Marc Goldstein, M.D., a professor of reproductive medicine and urology at Cornell University's Weill Medical College. So feel free to try for a personal best—at any age.

2. Semen is Low-Carb
FALSE: "Semen is mostly fruit sugar [fructose] and enzymes—not low-carb," says Dr. Goldstein. Which finally explains why there's no Oral Sex Diet.

3. Masturbation Yields the Strongest Orgasm
TRUE: But it's not a hard-and-fast rule, as it were. "It depends on the individual," says Jon L. Pryor, M.D., a professor of urologic surgery at the University of Minnesota. "For some it does, but for others, there's nothing that beats good ol' intercourse."

4. The Average Erection Measures 8 Inches
FALSE: Relax, Shorty. It's closer to 6.

5. No Penis is Too Large or Too Small for Any Vagina
TRUE: But perception still wins the game in the end. "I was once at a dinner meeting with seven other sex doctors—six men and one woman," says Dr. Pryor. "The men all agreed that size doesn't matter. The woman looked at us and said, 'Think what you want. Size matters.' We all left dejected."

6. Oysters Make You Horny
FALSE: You make you horny. "There is no scientific evidence that oysters increase libido," says Dr. Pryor. "But there may be a placebo effect, so if it works, great!"

7. Green M&Ms Make You Horny
FALSE: Unless they do. Then it's true. Isn't the mind wonderful?

8. Men Think About Sex Every 7 Seconds
FALSE: That number is tossed around a lot, but the truth is that only 23 percent of men claim to fantasize frequently. But maybe the rest are just too distracted to check the clock.

9. Cutting Out Broccoli Will Make Your Semen Taste Better
TRUE: Semen is naturally bitter, and eating broccoli and drinking coffee can make it worse. A ray of hope for the Oral Sex Diet!

10. Having Sex Before an Important Event—the Big Game, the Critical Presentation—Can Ruin Your Performance in the Event
FALSE: Swiss researchers performed stress tests on people 2 and 10 hours after the subjects had had sex, and found that by 10 hours, the participants were fully recovered. There was only a small dip in performance 2 hours after sex.

11. Having Sex in Water (Swimming Pool, Hot Tub, Shower) Will Kill Sperm
TRUE: Some of your swimmers may die, but it isn't an effective method of birth control, according to Dr. Pryor. Though a hot tub can overheat your testicles and kill sperm, there should be plenty left for the egg hunt.

12. You Can Become Addicted to Web Porn
TRUE: But the risk is low. Only 1 percent of all people who check out Internet porn will become addicted. If you're sporting a ring, be careful: 38 percent of addicts are married.

6 Sex Mistakes You're MakingSex is a Race

1. Sex is a Race
Break it: Explore her. Focus on her thighs and lower belly. Make a mental circle 2 inches around the outside of her vagina, and don't cross the line while you kiss, lick, and caress, says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., author of Different Loving. You'll ignite her nerve endings and bring her close to her red zone. It makes sex about discovery, not some destination. "Goal-oriented sex isn't sexy,".

2. Same Time, Same Place
Break it: Relive the past. Take her to the garage and reclaim the space you long ago ceded: Seduce her in the backseat of the car. It feels a little public, it's steeped in testosterone, and there's a throwback, high-school quality to it. Make it a quickie, which has its place in the sexual diet; having lots of sexbegets more sex, because you stay connected, says Laura Berman, Ph.D., director of the Berman Center in Chicago.

3. Predictable Foreplay
Break it: Work out together. Think of it as fat-burning foreplay. It will raise her dopamine levels, easing her anxieties. "She'll feel the sex is about her and not some random need she has to accommodate," says Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., a professor of sociology at Washington University. Bonus: Your post-run sweat has androstadienone, a testosterone derivative that spikes her arousal when she smells it.

4. Lopsided First Moves
Break it: Tie her hands. It's now up to her to figure out how to remove your shirt, tie, cuff links, and pants. You'll share a few laughs and marvel at her ingenuity. Whether you tie her up or she binds you,  the game will break your predictable, first-move habits. The bonus: "It acts as an automatic foreplay extender," says Berman.

5. TV, Then Sex
Break it: Read to her. It doesn't have to be erotica. It's an intimate activity that makes her focus on your voice. The deeper, the better. Low voices are a sign of high testosterone, which ups her attraction to you, according to a Scottish study. Read lying in bed with your head up, to dip an octave; it forces you to push air with your diaphragm instead of your lungs.

6. Habitual Hand Holding
Break it: Caress her neck. Sure, holding hands can work as an aphrodisiac: It shows her you're devoted and proud to tell the world. But after a while, its poignancy wanes. A stepped-up PDA will deepen her connection to you, so she'll be more willing to really give herself to you in the bedroom, 

Seduce any woman

We all know how well guys in India fare when it comes to sex, thanks to the sex and health surveys conducted by Men’s Health across the world. Plus we have our Bollywood babes and Kamasutra legends. But there are guys in other countries who are having more sex than you.

Don’t worry—we have a plan. We took a trip around the world to find out what makes men from our country and other countries so attractive to the women they pursue. We also enlisted the help of sex experts around the globe to save you from another sexless night. Master their tips and soon you’ll simply be able to say “G’day” and mate.

International Sex Survey 2007

England
Take her, outside
Hugh Grant has typecast British men as meek and bumbling. But according to a 2005 Durex survey of 317,000 people in 41 countries, these blokes are so irresistible, their partners can’t even wait to get back to the flat. Twice as many Brits as Aamericans report having had sex on public transportation and in alleyways and gardens. “Many a chap has fallen in love in the checkout line at the supermarket,” says Vicki Ford, a British psychosexual therapist and the author of Overcoming Sexual Problems. Aapparently, they consummate it on their way home.

How to do it : Arouse her temptation. Pull her into a side alley or a dark doorway and plant one while gently stroking her neck, suggests Emily Dubberley, a British sex expert and the author of Brief Encounters. “Fear of being caught stimulates her fight-or-flight response,” explains Ford. “Adrenaline floods her system, making everything feel much more intense.”

Australia
Drive her wild
People love their cars, but Australians love in their cars. Almost 75 per cent of Aussies have had sex on the road, according to the Durex international survey. “Sneaking away for a surreptitious shag or fondle says, ‘I can’t wait,’ ” says Gabrielle Morrissey, PhD, Australian author of A Year of Spicy Sex.

How to do it : Heading to a party is the perfect opportunity to lure her over to the driver’s side—the mood is up, and you’re dressed to the nines. Playfully graze her inner thigh with your fingertips. Suggest that it’s proper to be fashionably late—how should we fill the time?—and park on a dark, secluded street for a quickie. “It’s like sharing a secret all night,” Morrissey says, “especially if you’ve promised each other an encore.” Point of caution: in India, like in several conservative countries, sex in public places is restricted. So watch your back!

Romania
Play it straight
Meeting women is easy, if you’re not sidetracked by insecurity (“Is she looking at me?”), coy games (“Have our waitress ask her waitress what she’s drinking”), or body-language interpretation (“Dude, her eyes say no, but the angle of her feet says olé!”). When Romanian men want a woman, they tell her. “The men here have a lot of self-confidence,” says Felicia Aabaza, sex editor of Men’s Health Romania. “And the women are tuned to respond to it.”

How to do it : Lean in unexpectedly and whisper in her ear, “I just had to be near you.” Be mindful of your tone. Brash: bad. Calm: good. “Caress her with your voice,” says Patricia Cihodaru, MsC, a Rromanian psychologist and sex expert. Aand when you’ve become friendly enough that you won’t get a punch in the chops, “say she looks beautiful and tell her how much you want her,” says Cihodaru. “Hearing your desire is the strongest aphrodisiac.”

China
Build tension with technology
Forget the three-day rule. In China, men follow up the day after a successful date—by e-mail. “Ttechnology plays a big role in relationships here,” says Yyoyoo Chow, sex editor of Men’s Health China. “Most couples meet over the Internet. So if a man doesn’t take the initiative soon, she’ll find someone else pretty quickly.”

How to do it : Send a short, suggestive note, says Chow. Something as simple as “Llast night... wow! When can I see you again?” will incite her interest. If she feels the same way, she’ll respond accordingly. Aas the sexual tension builds, resist the temptation to pour out your soul or create a list of your top 10 fantasies. At this early stage, short equals sexy—always. And remember: use of emoticons will ensure that you spend the night alone. 

Italy
Seduce her with food
It’s no secret that good food, wine and conversation lead to great sex. “Italian men flock to dinner parties to meet women,” says Adriana Amedei, sex editor at Men’s Health Italy. “There’s no crowd, no noise, it’s relaxed. All you have to do is share your opinions... at least to start.” The real mating game, says Amedei, begins at the table. Flirting overtly over a meal (or discreetly under the table) builds tension that will spill over later. “Food and sex are intimately connected, because they tap into the senses,” says Martha Hopkins, author of InterCourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook.

How to do it : “Listen, make eye contact and seek out a common interest,” says Hopkins. “Then, while eating, conjure up the same sounds that accompany sex: mmm, oooh, aahh.” You’re creating a mood and a fantasy. Be subtle. You don’t want the host to say, “Um, do you mind? We’re eating.”

India
Prolong your pleasure
Indian men have long known that the journey to an orgasm is almost always more interesting than the destination itself. “Sexual pleasure is linked to the gradual process of seduction, which includes courtship, touching and kissing,” says Sanjay Srivastava, PhD, author of Passionate Modernity. “Focussing on the finish misses the point.”

How to do it : Practise a technique called karezza, in which the man remains inside the woman for at least 10 minutes, moving only when necessary to maintain an erection. Penetrate her slowly and gently. Match your breathing and maintain eye contact with her to focus on your emotional connection, not just the physical act. “Conventional sex can be very limiting,” says Kenneth Rray Stubbs, PhD, author of The Essential Tantra. “This (karezza) results in an enhanced climax for both partners.”

Netherlands
Play with positions
Lovers in the Netherlands know what they want—and how to ask for it. Sixty-four per cent of Dutch men and women are confident about asserting their needs during sex, according to the Durex survey. “In bars, men are picked up as often as they approach women, and both are willing to experiment in bed,” says Achsa Vissel, a Dutch sex psychologist. Being frank with your compliments— and desires—will pave the way for pleasure.

How to do it : “Dutch men pay a lot of attention to places on her body that seem less erotic, like the inner arms, back and shoulders,” says Vissel. This shaking up of the routine leads to more sex: 63 per cent of the Dutch are satisfied with the amount of sex they’re having. When you and your partner are ready to move past the missionary position, try moves that let you stroke her clitoris during sex, like doggy-style or cowgirl.

Greece
Don’t be so uptight
Certain nationalities (Americans, for instance) are bombarded with sexual imagery all day, yet they are cagey about sex. Not so in Greece. “We talk about sex all the time—in the office, with our friends, with our partners,” says Nikki Hayia, sex editor of Men’s Health Greece. “A Greek man can talk dirty to his woman in front of 10 people, and it doesn’t bother him to kiss and touch her in public.” Simple public displays of affection can work for you: a study by the Berman Center in Chicago found that couples who kiss often in non-sexual situations are eight times more likely to be sexually satisfied.

How to do it : Hint at what’s to come, says Hayia: subtly stroke her thigh or lower back during dinner; run your fingers up her leg; steal a lingering kiss on her bare shoulder at a bar. “Relax, guys. Have sex like there’s no tomorrow,” says Hayia.

Perfect the 10-minute seduction

Many things run through a woman’s mind when you meet. Here’s how to go from “hello” to “oh my”.

Your approach 
Her brain quickly vets your height and facial symmetry the moment you meet. Now convince her of your character. Approach confidently; don’t pretend to bump into her. “Men tend to talk to each other at angles to avoid confrontation,” says Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher, PhD, author of Why We Love. “But women face each other head-on and maintain eye contact.”

Your voice 
The most attractive women prefer deep-voiced men, according to a recent study by Scottish researchers. It suggests high testosterone levels, a sign of strength and reproductive prowess. Push out air with your diaphragm, not your throat. This lengthens the column of air moving past your vocal cords. “It’s like a built-in subwoofer,” says voice coach Joanne Joella.

Your icebreaker 
Say something that will draw out her details. “Your friends seem nice—how did you get to know them?” is a compliment and a window into her past. Forming a bond will release dopamine, a mood booster, in her brain. Show your interest with verbal nods of agreement, adds Alex Pentland, PhD, an MIT professor whose software assesses whether speed daters are feeling sparks.

Your body language 
Attraction causes couples to mirror each other’s body language. But don’t be overeager to connect. Stay relaxed and let her set the tone, says Lisa Clampett, founder of the Matchmaking Institute. Fidgeting conveys nervousness and triggers the release of stress chemicals in her brain. “Once she brushes your shoulder or thigh, reciprocate in a minute or two,” Fisher says. Or touch her inner forearm, a nerve-rich zone that will create sparks.

Your deal-closer 
If you’ve made the right sort of first impression, she might be wondering how you are in bed. “Consciously or not,” says Fisher, “she’s looking for signs that you’re patient and sensitive to the ways her body finds pleasure.” So talk her through the dessert options. Don’t handle the cutlery roughly. Call out the scent notes of a bottle of wine. Show refined tastes in these areas and she’ll suspect you have others worth exploring— back at her place.

Rev her engines

Women have their most sensual trigger zones. Drive her wild by touching her right where she wants.

1 Soothe her
"The foundation of her orgasm is relaxation," points out Men's Health columnist Pooja Bedi. Here's how to do the trick: cradle the back of her neck with one hand, placing your thumb on one side and your fingers on the other. Alternate rubbing five firm, slow circles on each side. "She'll relax and open up in no time," 
2 Trace a path
Lick her with long strokes from the inside of her knee to the top of her thigh, stopping just short of the hot zone. Then kiss her lightly up the same path. "The anticipation of having you move even higher is such a turn-on," says Patti Britton, PhD, author of The Art of Sex Coaching. "Telegraphing your move beforehand heightens anticipation."

3 Fan the fire
"Breathe on her clitoris in short, fast spurts," suggests Bedi. "It feels like an air vibrator."

4 Hit the right tune
"Cover your teeth with your lips and hum while you gently nibble her ear," ! "The vibrations intensify the sensation."

5 Double her pleasure
Kiss her collar bone, starting at her left shoulder and working your way in. Mimic the movement with your fingertips on her right shoulder. "The two sensations will heighten her arousal,"

Sex On the tip of your tongue

Oranges and figs be aphrodisiacs, but are certainly not the only fruits you can use to make a woman reach orgasm, fast and furiously. Getting a woman to orgasm using her clitoris is a simple task, because all it takes are a few basic tricks. Almost all men-even those who've passed with flying colours in ladies' toilet-conversations-feel a bit lost as soon as they face the lips down there. Learn the skills and you will become an extremely hot commodity. 

From beginner level to expert, there's something new to learn for everybody. So take out your black books, start taking notes and envisage the orgasmic returns you'll get on your invested time. Nothing is impossible, especially this. You can achieve it with these simple lessons. Pay attention. The class is now in progress.

1. The best way to get her to orgasm quickly is to slow down
As counter-intuitive as it sounds, spending time preparing your woman will definitely save you hours later. In fact, the time you take before going down on her is inversely proportional to the time you'll have to spend actually down there. She'll feel self-conscious if she's taking ages to come and will be inclined to fake it to save your ego. This also means you won't risk getting a locked jaw in the process. 

A good way to prepare her is to share a sexy shower or bath. This not only ensures you can enjoy eating her, it also takes her mind off work or other worries, and will ease her own concerns about whether she's clean enough to relax when you head downstairs. Once she's all hot and steamy, relax, start with some chit chat and then get on to business.

2. Coax her into purring mode
You need to tease her genitals, not commit an invasion. While you're kissing, press a thigh between her legs and grind in. Move it up and down between her legs. It's the washing-machine-on-spincycle principle-the overall vibration has a greater arousing effect than just using a finger or two. This type of indirect contact with her clitoris and vagina is a great way to get her warmed up. 

Then move down and nibble her through her skirt as a teasing prelude until she starts grinding on your face-she'll soon be in a hurry to strip to her knickers. Which is when you can try breathing and licking on her labia through her panties. This type of titillation ensures that when you finally do touch down on her clitoris, there's an explosive reaction

3. Read her lips to find your way to her clitoris
To get her to orgasm in the quickest time possible, you need to be able to locate her clitoris with ease. 

By far the easiest way to locate any woman's clitoris is to use her inner lips, or labia minora, as a guide. Follow them along from the bottom (closest to her behind) until they come together towards the top (belly button side). Just above that is a fleshy horizontal fold. That's the clitoral hood. Put a finger above that and gently pull up, towards her belly. This will expose a small feshy knob-that's her clitoris. 

These little epicenters of pleasure come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. Some clitorises hide, others jump out; some women have larger outer lips while others have none; and some women have hefty clitoral hoods that need to be pulled back to get to the love button. So there's simply no way you can know exactly where her clitoris is nor how to touch it until you've explored it thoroughly. 

Take a good look once you've found it. You'll see it doesn't look like a button the way a nipple does- it's the same colour as her inner lips which makes it a little tricky to see, but it does stand proud off the surrounding area when it's fully aroused and engorged with blood. All courtesy of you, of course!

4. Plums provide the right pressure test 
Once you've located her clitoris, use your thumb to gently stroke it. Her responses will let you know if you're doing well. If you're in doubt, ask her. But don't ask her "Does that feel good?" because it's vague. Ask her "Do you like it faster?" or "Do you want it harder?" That way, you'll get a more honest answer. 

Some girls have very sensitive pleasure knobs and they may not like direct touch immediately. If that's the case, try caressing from the outside of the hood. 

To get an idea of what kind of pressure to apply, use a ripe plum or peach. First, run your finger tips across the surface of the plum. If your fingernails or fingers are too rough or jagged, they'll tear the skin-that means they'd tear the skin of a woman too, so use a nail file and some moisturiser to smoothen them. Now, hold the plum with both hands, cupping it so that the fingertips of one hand touch the tips of the other. Slowly press in with the fingertips from your little finger to the index finger, as if you're massaging in a wave. If the plum splits open on the first go around, you're doing this too hard. 

When you're doing this on her, cup her whole vulva in your hands. Squeeze gently, and then begin the move. Avoid the urge to penetrate her. Warm her up from the outside first.

5. She may not know it, but what she'll really enjoy is a good shafting
Attached to a woman's clitoris is the clitoral shaft-manipulate it to give her the female equivalent of a hand-job. The clitoris you see is just the head of a nerve bundle that goes up into her body. You can find the shaft if you gently, but firmly, grasp around the upper labia, including the clitoris and clitoral hood, using your fingers. You'll feel something like a thin electrical cable-the clitoral shaft. Keeping the grip, slowly stroke that bundle. It's something most women never experience.

6. Learn the 'how tos' with Polo mints
This may sound a bit ridiculous, but it works. Take a Polo mint and pop it in your mouth, placing it between the front of your teeth and lips. The hole is her clitoris. Use your tongue tip to trace a circular pattern in one direction and then the other. Then poke the hole with your tongue. Sweep the hole from bottom to top and side to side, circle again and then poke. Repeat until the Polo breaks. You can practise this anywhere, at any time. Women orgasm through consistent rhythmical stimulation so once she's enjoying a particular move, don't change what you're doing.

Bribe for more sex!

Want to give a woman a gift that keeps on giving (if you get our drift)? Give her something that shows you actually listen to her. "The best gifts show that you pay attention to the details in her life," Be it quirky or something in a casual conversation, effort counts big."

1. Reminisce with her
It's boring, but there's no faster route to intimacy than a stroll down memory lane. Just don't invite her mother.
• Restore a favourite photo (not one of the ex-boyfriend) and have it framed.
• Fly her best friend to visit her (not if she lives three blocks away) and take them out to dinner.
• Have a school reunion session at a cosy place, excuse yourself, and then come back to pick her up when she's all liquored up.

2. Homemade coupons
Women are suckers for it. Give her a certificate for a session of the 'Cover Model Shoot'…
• Three hours of foreplay
• An olive oil massage
• Conversation cuddles after sex

Try stores like ASAP, to give your droopy bouquet a sexy or funny edge. They are equipped to handle your La la-land ideas, even if you are not. From singing clowns to news headlines. They do it all. Their services extend till Bangalore, Hyderabad and even the US.

3. Teach her a lesson
Women love gifts that involve a shared  experience," says Isadora Alman, a syndicated sex and relationship columnist in San Francisco. So sign up for...
• Dance lessons (Master some steps beforehand. She'll be floored!)
• Wine-tasting lessons
• Flying lessons
• Shared gym experiences
"Don't try outlandish things. And flying lessons may backfire if she has vertigo," says Puri.

4. Go the extra mile
Be her slave-trade places, later. Do this for her now:
• Wash her hair, scrub her back, and paint her toenails.
• Get her the first edition of a book or anything equally treasured.
• Express your love publicly-send her gift to her office or her party five minutes before you arrive.

5. Take her away
There's no need to fl y halfway across the world and back. Just grab her, a bottle of red wine and the car keys. Or else try...
• Naked bathtub days (yes, with the candles and bubble bath foam).
• For a spontaneous weekend in the hills or backwaters of Kerala.
• On a surprise vacation (conspire with her boss, then kidnap her).

Steamy sex boosts fertility!

If you're hoping to hear the patter of tiny feet, make some noise in the bedroom. Researchers in Japan have found that the steamier the sex, the higher your sperm count. They compared semen from fertile men collected while they masturbated both while watching erotic videos and while not. Sexual satisfaction was 46 per cent higher in the former case than in the latter.

"In the long run, repeated bouts of steamy sex lead to better contraction," says Hyderabad based Dr Sudakar Krishnamurti, andrologist, microsurgeon and director, Andromeda Andrology Center. And this better contraction means that you generate more volume of ejaculate and at the same time draw from younger, healthier sperm. Time to bring out the handcuffs and chocolate sauce then.

Is she fit for you?

See that woman playing with that barbell? Thinking about talking to her? Here's our woman-workout decoder to help you. According to Jim Gavin, PhD, sports psychologist, Concordia University in Montreal, how a woman works out may tell you how she'll work out your life.

1. The yogic chick
She loves to try out new fitness regimes. She has experimented with yoga, spinning, hoopla-she's the first to join a new class

She is: A follower. Which means she'll want you to take the lead. But this also means she get off-track easily. Big question: reliability. Will she stick with you for long or long enough to sample someone new? Tip: She'll dump you the minute she feels you're in a rut.

2. The efficient babe
She works out as fast as she can, and moves across the gym before you can spot her leotard. Some aerobics, some machines, crunches, stretching-all in 45 minutes.

She is: On a schedule. A complete efficiency expert. Danger: It might play out the same way in the bedroom. Five minutes of foreplay, seven minutes of sex-oops, time for a quick snack in between!

3. The multitasker
Does the same workout-treadmill or bike-three or four times a week, always while watching TV or reading a newspaper or magazine.

She is: A multitasker. Her head wants to do different things even when her body says otherwise. She's thinking: Let's do something mindless, but keep me entertained. Tough to please on a date. Unless you go to the circus.

4. The gossiper
Runs with friends, usually at lunch. She is a talker and loves her audience.

She is: Definitely a gossiper. She fuels herself on other people's energy and her way of life depends on this. She will be with you as long as it interests her.

5. The disciplinarian
Walks every morning. Same place, same route, same pace.

She is: A disciplinarian. She keeps to a schedule and is trustworthy. She won't do the club scene, butshe's probably a good listener- and could be the best catch of them all.

126 reasons to have sex

1. They get carried away in the heat of the moment
2. Boredom
3. For a dare
4. To feel closer to God
5. To be popular
6. For the excitement of it
7. To make up after a fight
8 To get rid of aggression, anxiety or stress
9. Because they're drunk…
10. …or on drugs
11. To express love or affection
12. For the pure physical pleasure
13 A sense of duty
14. Because the person is too attractive to resist
15. Because they feel "horny"
16. To fit in with sexually active friends
17. Because the other person involved is famous
18. They feel forced to do it
19. To feel loved
20. A desire to have a child
21. To make someone jealous
22. To forget about their problems
23. Because they're tired of virginity
24. Loneliness
25. For the attention
26. Because they don't know how to say no
27. To ensure the relationship is "committed"
28. Because they are competing with someone else to get the person
29. To gain control of the person
30. To see whether the other person is good in bed
31. To boost self-esteem
32. To please a partner
33. To end the relationship
34. For the experience
35. To release sexual frustration
36. The other person is "available"
37. A fear of losing the person
38. In order to trap a new artner
39. Pity
40. To feel powerful
41. Jealousy
42. They feel rebellious
43. To intensify a relationship, connect at a deeper level and increase emotional bonds
44. It seems like the natural next step
45. The other person is drunk

The person you have sex with is…
46. Self-confident
47. A good kisser
48. Intelligent
49. Desired by others
50. Mysterious

51. To feel young
52. To manipulate someone into doing something
53. To stop someone from nagging about sex
54. To hurt or humiliate the person
55. Fear of disappointing someone
56. To get over a relationship
57. To reaffirm sexual orientation
58. To try new sexual techniques and positions
59. Guilt
60. Raging hormones
61. To get more of a partner's time
62. Habit
63. To keep a partner from straying
64. To lose inhibitions
65. Curiosity about their own sexual abilities
66. For another "notch on the bed post"
67. To gain access to the other person's friend
68. To feel healthy
69. To experience sex with someone other than their partner
70. To help them fall asleep
71. So they can boast about it
72. A desire to submit to a partner
73. To get sex out of their system so they can focus on other things
74. They're celebrating something
75. They're seduced
76. To get back at a cheating partner
77. A desire to dominate the other person
78. Sex addiction
79. As a favour to someone
80. A desire to be used or degraded
81. Money
82. Because it seems like a good exercise
83. A sexual conversation turns them on
84. The person smells nice
85. A bet
86. The person is a good dancer

To say…
87. "I've missed you"
88. "I'm sorry"
89. "Thank you"
90. "Goodbye"

91. To keep warm
92. To punish themselves
93. To break up someone's relationship
94. Because of the romantic setting
95. To improve their sexual skills
96. To get a job, a raise, or a promotion

Because the other person…
97. Takes them out for an expensive dinner
98. Buys them jewellery
99. Makes them feel sexy
100. Flatters them
101. Really desires them

102. To burn calories
103. Just to change the topic of conversation
104. To get out of doing something
105. To test compatibility with a new partner
106. To put the passion back into a relationship
107. To give someone a sexually transmitted disease
108. Fear of hurting someone's feelings
109. To get rid of a headache
110. Revenge
111. The person has a great sense of humour
112. To feel older
113. To welcome someone home
114. To cheer up their partner
115. To relieve menstrual cramps
116. To get the most out of life
117. To feel masculine/feminine
118. They're promised drugs
119. The other person is very rich
120. To get gifts
121. The person has beautiful eyes
122. A sudden realisation they're in love
123. The arousing effects of an erotic movie
124. To act out a fantasy
125. Because they didn't do it for a while 
126. To see what all the fuss is about.

Touch her here

Saturdays are so great, but Sundays are not to be sniffed at either: no office means you can stay in bed all day, how about that?

Here are some hot tips to keep the action going for hours. Instead of starting at the top, like kissing her on the mouth, start well below, like at the knees, or better still, at the feet. Work your way up slowly and don't go in a straight line. Don't be predictable.

Men's Health sex columnist Pooja Bedi makes you a wiser performer: "When you use a straight stroke (on her body), the nerves in the skin are not surprised." Tracing a wavy line and irregular strokes keep the nerves surprised and excited. "Also, kiss her in unexpected places, like the base of her spine upwards, or start at the back of her knees and work the kisses either upwards or down to her heels," says Bedi. Had enough of the bed?

Hit the shower. Get a bar of handmade soap in a scent you both love and rub it over each other's body. You'll discover new pleasure points and get all squeaky clean, too. Talk about killing two birds with one stone.

Sex in New Year

3 questions that lead to intimacy
Seek these little details and you'll a faster train into her heart-through her head. But brace yourself...

1. "What's that crazy something you can see yourself doing at least once?"
Knowing that you're curious about her goals and aspirations makes her feel special. And getting her to confide her dreams makes her think of risk, excitement and a little danger, All these thoughts activate adrenaline and increase sexual desire in her.

2. "What's something your parents do not get about you?"
Questions like this are gold-especially if you're going out for the first time. "You're sending the message that you'll go beyond the obvious when connecting with her," This suggests you might be similarly open sexually. Which is quite hot-for her and you.

3. "Do you have any recurring dreams? And what are they?"
This is a great question (or set of questions) to gauge where you are with her. Watch her body language when she answers, says Bedi. If she says, "I always have a dream that I'm in a play and I don't know my lines" and then crosses her arms, back off a bit. Crossed arms are normally closed emotional doors and she's not going to tell you much to go forward. Ask her what she thinks the dream means, as you open up your posture and invite her answer. To keep the conversation more fun than psychological diversion or headaches, watch her facial expression. "Eyebrows up conveys nonthreatening curiosity- which is sexy,"  "Eyebrows down conveys judgment-and that is scary."

4 electronic tools that double as sex toys

1. Electric toothbrush: Buy one just for this purpose: Cover it with a sheet, turn it on and gently run the vibrating head against her inner thighs, labia and clitoris, says sex columnist Dina Al-Sabah.

2. Cellphone: Send welltimed, romantic text messages. After you've hooked up and as you get closer, your texts can grow a bit more... interesting (that is, raunchy).

3. Exercise bike: Breaking a sweat together before you really break a sweat together can put you both in the mood. 4iPod There is an attachment for the iPod called the iBuzz Vibrator that stimulates her in time to the music you're playing. And it works best with bass-heavy tunes.

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7 reasons your girl is better than this model
1. When she puts on a sheer dress or a see-through salwar kameez, she actually puts it on over a slip. And she lets only you see it without the slip. That's a powerful statement.

2. A night out with the girls means a few innocent drinks, a bunch of giggles and a bit of bitching-not things you'll find on MMSs. Which makes your "That should be fun for you, baby!" sound so much more genuine and not cynical or pointed.

3. When she asks, "Do I look fat?" she's talking to you-not to you, her stylist, her agent and her manager. Your girlfriend or wife doesn't need a staff to make it through the day. She just needs herself-and a little bit of love from you. And she understands if you're working late so send her your love via a sweet SMS.

4. She can carry a baby and a packet full of household stuff across a line of shoppers and the parking without dropping the baby on his head, since she knows the difference between a child, groceries and an accessory.

5. She knows that AIDS and breast cancer are diseases. She cares, as opposed to caring about looking like she cares. And she listens when you tell her that it's something you care about.

6. To her, multiple partners is not something that's a fashion statement. It's something she hopes you'll never show her and something she knows you will never see. And the 'D' word is still a bit of a big deal.

7. She loves dogs because she loves dogs-especially your big Labrador-not because it is cool but because she loves you and the small gestures you make for it (she knows you'll make that same effort for her). And she doesn't crave dog breeds that can fit into a handbag.

Safe Sex

What Is Safe Sex, What Is Safer Sex?

Safe sex, also known as "safer sex," involves protecting yourself and your partner from sexually transmitted diseases and infections (STDs). STDs include Chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, trichomoniasis, genital herpes, genital warts, hepatitis B, hepatitis C and HIV.

Safe sex also involves getting tested for STDs each time you have a new sex partner. If you discover that you have an STD or HIV, it's important to get treated by a doctor and tell your partner so he or she can get tested and treated, too.

What's The Best Way To Protect Myself?

Cover up! Use a barrier on any part of your body that might come into contact with your partner's bodily fluids. First and foremost, this means using a latex condom whenever you have vaginal, oral or anal intercourse.
Condoms are the best way to avoid contracting and spreading most STDs. Condoms prevent bacteria and viruses found in semen, vaginal fluids and blood from coming into contact with your body.
It's important to always use a condom and to use it correctly each time. Don't use the same condom twice--ever.
Latex gloves may be used to protect your hands during digital penetration. Plastic wrap creates a protective barrier during mouth-to-genital contact with a girl or mouth-to-anus contact with a guy or a girl.

What About Using Lube With a Condom?

Lubrication, or "lube," can make sex more comfortable and enjoyable. However, beware: Oil and latex don't mix. Using lotion, Vaseline or any other oil-based substance with a condom breaks down the latex and prevents it from protecting you.

If you use lube with a condom, be sure it's water-based. KY Jelly, Wet and Astroglide are a few types of water-based lube available at your local drugstore or supermarket.

Where Can I Get Condoms and Lube?

Condoms, lube, latex gloves and more are available at your local pharmacy, Planned Parenthood and teen health centers.

What If My Partner's On The Pill?

Birth control pills and contraceptive injections prevent pregnancy, but don't protect you or your partner from STDs. In other words, it's still important to use condoms.

Why Is Safe Sex So Important?

In addition to preventing the spread of disease, having safe sex puts your mind--and your partner's--at ease. When you're calm and content, sex is much more fun.

Sex with a new partner

Chill out
Calm down now. Performance anxiety isn't pretty, and it takes all the fun out of sex. In fact, too much anxiety might end up meaning there's no performance at all, if you get the drift. Take it easy, and lower your expectations. First-time sex with a new partner is more about exploring each other's bodies and getting to know them better, rather than putting on a show and trying too hard to impress.
Take your time
What worked brilliantly with a previous sexual partner may not work now, but that's no reflection on your prowess as a lover. Different people respond to different things, and finding out what can be half of the fun. Nerves can get in the way too, and sometimes it takes a while before someone can get naked and relax. If either of you are feeling too stressed, just take the pressure off; you don't need to have sex there and then. Wait until you're both sure that you're ready. If you've decided to go back to yours, and sex is on the cards, then a little preparation goes a long way. Make them feel special and comfortable. Tidy up a bit, have something good in the fridge for breakfast, and stock up on their favourite drink. Oh, and make sure you've got enough condoms, because running down to the late night garage with a hard-on or a hitched-up skirt is not a good look, and it kind of breaks up the mood.
If you're going back to their place, be a good guest. Don't make an automatic assumption that they want to have sex with you, and take your own condoms as well, just in case. You'll get extra points for turning up on time, looking and smelling good. Let them know you're having a good time and like their company.
Have a laugh
It's only perfect in the movies. Nobody's psychic. You have to tell one another what you like and want, and if you're not enjoying something then don't be scared to ask for something different instead. If you are pulling out all of the stops to please your new partner, make sure they make an effort to do something pleasurable for you too - there should be some give and take. Keep a sense of humour at all times, and if you fall out of bed or get cramp in your toes then laugh it off instead of getting embarrassed or worried. Even if you cringe at the time, it could be something you both look back on later with a warm fuzzy glow. "Remember the time when we. . .?"

Sex and drugs

LSD/ Magic mushrooms
High: Some users report an increased sexual awareness while tripping.Low: Trips are unpredictable. Hallucinating unpleasantly during sex could be traumatic, while a heavy dose may leave users totally turned off.
Cocaine
High: Cocaine is a stimulant drug. In small doses it can increase sexual arousal and make orgasms and erections easier. Low: In larger amounts, cocaine can still fuel sexual desire, while decreasing the ability to actually perform properly. Problems achieving erection and orgasm are very common.
Amphetamines (speed)
High: The initial rush may lift the libido, but the feeling is unlikely to last.Low: Male users may find the penis is less sensitive or responsive, and ejaculation difficult to achieve. As a result, sex can last a long time - which places both partners at risk of chafing (rubbed raw skin). Painfully funny on paper. Pure pain, in reality.
Cannabis
High: Users can feel less inhibited and unfriendly, while the increased sensory perception can turn stoners all touchy-feely.Low: Blokes on dope risk a reduction in testosterone production, and a drop in sperm count, while females may experience some fertility problems due to changes in ovulation and menstrual cycles.
Ecstasy
High: An increased sense of warmth and empathy towards sexual partner. Some users feel they are more physically aroused, (although others report a loss of sensation and delayed orgasm).Low: Increases the chances of risky sexual behaviour. A recent study showed users were more likely not to bother using condoms or other forms of contraception. Also, the drug-induced sense of loving everyone around you could mean you wind up sleeping with someone you don't really like at all.
Opiates
High: Drugs such as heroin, morphine and codeine belong to a drug group called opiates, which have a painkilling, detached effect. Codeine, in particular, is a feature in some strong over-the-counter painkilling products, so about the only appeal there, sex-wise, is that headaches won't wash as an excuse.Low: Opiate misuse can lead to full time problems such as impotence, lowered libido and difficulty attaining orgasm.
Poppers (alkyl nitrites)
High: Some users take poppers during sex because they enjoy the brief, intense head rush and relaxant effect. Particularly popular among gay men.Low: Alkyl nitrites reduce blood pressure. This means Viagra users should steer clear as the combination could be fatal.
The potential effect of a drug on sex is just one of many factors to consider before taking any substance. Knowledge is power, so get wise to the risks involved right.

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Teens and Sex

Why teens start having sex in the first place. Environment, age of partner and perceived family support may affect young people's decisions to have sex.

While the media bombards us with alarming statistics about the number of teenagers having sex, few reports shed light on what might encourage teens to become sexually active in the first place. Three studies offer some insight into sexually active teens: environment, age of partner and perceived family support may affect young people's decisions to have sex.
In a study presented at a meeting of the American Public Health Association (APHA), researchers at the University of Kentucky followed 950 teenagers at 17 high schools in Kentucky and Ohio from 9th to 11th grades. They found evidence that teens who have intercourse tend to think their friends are too, even if they're not. "You're 2.5 times more likely to have sex by the 9th grade if you think your friends are having sex -- whether or not they really are," says Katharine Atwood, assistant professor at the Kentucky School of Public Health. Plus, teens tended to overestimate how many of their friends were sexually active. Only 33 percent of kids in the study had had sex by the 9th grade, but 31 percent said that most or all of their friends had had sex. "If you can persuade them that fewer are having sex than they think," she says, "that can have a significant impact on their behavior."
Among young girls, a partner's age is a risk factor for sexual activity. "The younger the girl is at the age of first intercourse, the more likely she is to have a much older partner," says Harold Leitenberg, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Vermont. His study, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, found that of 4,201 girls in 8th through 12th grades, those who lost their virginity between ages 11 and 12 tended to have partners five or more years older. For girls who had sex later in adolescence, the partner's age disparity was much smaller. Early sexual initiation was also associated with a number of behavioral problems. "Ignoring the age of the partners, the earlier a girl was when she first had intercourse, the greater her risk of suicide attempts, alcohol use, drug abuse, truancy and pregnancy," Leitenberg says.
The good news is that while teen sex may not be wholly preventable, the health risks it involves can be reduced through communication within the family. More research presented at the APHA meeting showed that frequent parent-child discussions about sex and its dangers may prevent teenagers from engaging in risky sexual behavior. Researchers at Emory University questioned 522 sexually active African-American adolescents about the openness and support that their families provided. Adolescents who felt that their families were more supportive were less likely to have unprotected sex, and thus were at a lesser risk for pregnancy and disease.