Seduce any woman

We all know how well guys in India fare when it comes to sex, thanks to the sex and health surveys conducted by Men’s Health across the world. Plus we have our Bollywood babes and Kamasutra legends. But there are guys in other countries who are having more sex than you.

Don’t worry—we have a plan. We took a trip around the world to find out what makes men from our country and other countries so attractive to the women they pursue. We also enlisted the help of sex experts around the globe to save you from another sexless night. Master their tips and soon you’ll simply be able to say “G’day” and mate.

International Sex Survey 2007

England
Take her, outside
Hugh Grant has typecast British men as meek and bumbling. But according to a 2005 Durex survey of 317,000 people in 41 countries, these blokes are so irresistible, their partners can’t even wait to get back to the flat. Twice as many Brits as Aamericans report having had sex on public transportation and in alleyways and gardens. “Many a chap has fallen in love in the checkout line at the supermarket,” says Vicki Ford, a British psychosexual therapist and the author of Overcoming Sexual Problems. Aapparently, they consummate it on their way home.

How to do it : Arouse her temptation. Pull her into a side alley or a dark doorway and plant one while gently stroking her neck, suggests Emily Dubberley, a British sex expert and the author of Brief Encounters. “Fear of being caught stimulates her fight-or-flight response,” explains Ford. “Adrenaline floods her system, making everything feel much more intense.”

Australia
Drive her wild
People love their cars, but Australians love in their cars. Almost 75 per cent of Aussies have had sex on the road, according to the Durex international survey. “Sneaking away for a surreptitious shag or fondle says, ‘I can’t wait,’ ” says Gabrielle Morrissey, PhD, Australian author of A Year of Spicy Sex.

How to do it : Heading to a party is the perfect opportunity to lure her over to the driver’s side—the mood is up, and you’re dressed to the nines. Playfully graze her inner thigh with your fingertips. Suggest that it’s proper to be fashionably late—how should we fill the time?—and park on a dark, secluded street for a quickie. “It’s like sharing a secret all night,” Morrissey says, “especially if you’ve promised each other an encore.” Point of caution: in India, like in several conservative countries, sex in public places is restricted. So watch your back!

Romania
Play it straight
Meeting women is easy, if you’re not sidetracked by insecurity (“Is she looking at me?”), coy games (“Have our waitress ask her waitress what she’s drinking”), or body-language interpretation (“Dude, her eyes say no, but the angle of her feet says olé!”). When Romanian men want a woman, they tell her. “The men here have a lot of self-confidence,” says Felicia Aabaza, sex editor of Men’s Health Romania. “And the women are tuned to respond to it.”

How to do it : Lean in unexpectedly and whisper in her ear, “I just had to be near you.” Be mindful of your tone. Brash: bad. Calm: good. “Caress her with your voice,” says Patricia Cihodaru, MsC, a Rromanian psychologist and sex expert. Aand when you’ve become friendly enough that you won’t get a punch in the chops, “say she looks beautiful and tell her how much you want her,” says Cihodaru. “Hearing your desire is the strongest aphrodisiac.”

China
Build tension with technology
Forget the three-day rule. In China, men follow up the day after a successful date—by e-mail. “Ttechnology plays a big role in relationships here,” says Yyoyoo Chow, sex editor of Men’s Health China. “Most couples meet over the Internet. So if a man doesn’t take the initiative soon, she’ll find someone else pretty quickly.”

How to do it : Send a short, suggestive note, says Chow. Something as simple as “Llast night... wow! When can I see you again?” will incite her interest. If she feels the same way, she’ll respond accordingly. Aas the sexual tension builds, resist the temptation to pour out your soul or create a list of your top 10 fantasies. At this early stage, short equals sexy—always. And remember: use of emoticons will ensure that you spend the night alone. 

Italy
Seduce her with food
It’s no secret that good food, wine and conversation lead to great sex. “Italian men flock to dinner parties to meet women,” says Adriana Amedei, sex editor at Men’s Health Italy. “There’s no crowd, no noise, it’s relaxed. All you have to do is share your opinions... at least to start.” The real mating game, says Amedei, begins at the table. Flirting overtly over a meal (or discreetly under the table) builds tension that will spill over later. “Food and sex are intimately connected, because they tap into the senses,” says Martha Hopkins, author of InterCourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook.

How to do it : “Listen, make eye contact and seek out a common interest,” says Hopkins. “Then, while eating, conjure up the same sounds that accompany sex: mmm, oooh, aahh.” You’re creating a mood and a fantasy. Be subtle. You don’t want the host to say, “Um, do you mind? We’re eating.”

India
Prolong your pleasure
Indian men have long known that the journey to an orgasm is almost always more interesting than the destination itself. “Sexual pleasure is linked to the gradual process of seduction, which includes courtship, touching and kissing,” says Sanjay Srivastava, PhD, author of Passionate Modernity. “Focussing on the finish misses the point.”

How to do it : Practise a technique called karezza, in which the man remains inside the woman for at least 10 minutes, moving only when necessary to maintain an erection. Penetrate her slowly and gently. Match your breathing and maintain eye contact with her to focus on your emotional connection, not just the physical act. “Conventional sex can be very limiting,” says Kenneth Rray Stubbs, PhD, author of The Essential Tantra. “This (karezza) results in an enhanced climax for both partners.”

Netherlands
Play with positions
Lovers in the Netherlands know what they want—and how to ask for it. Sixty-four per cent of Dutch men and women are confident about asserting their needs during sex, according to the Durex survey. “In bars, men are picked up as often as they approach women, and both are willing to experiment in bed,” says Achsa Vissel, a Dutch sex psychologist. Being frank with your compliments— and desires—will pave the way for pleasure.

How to do it : “Dutch men pay a lot of attention to places on her body that seem less erotic, like the inner arms, back and shoulders,” says Vissel. This shaking up of the routine leads to more sex: 63 per cent of the Dutch are satisfied with the amount of sex they’re having. When you and your partner are ready to move past the missionary position, try moves that let you stroke her clitoris during sex, like doggy-style or cowgirl.

Greece
Don’t be so uptight
Certain nationalities (Americans, for instance) are bombarded with sexual imagery all day, yet they are cagey about sex. Not so in Greece. “We talk about sex all the time—in the office, with our friends, with our partners,” says Nikki Hayia, sex editor of Men’s Health Greece. “A Greek man can talk dirty to his woman in front of 10 people, and it doesn’t bother him to kiss and touch her in public.” Simple public displays of affection can work for you: a study by the Berman Center in Chicago found that couples who kiss often in non-sexual situations are eight times more likely to be sexually satisfied.

How to do it : Hint at what’s to come, says Hayia: subtly stroke her thigh or lower back during dinner; run your fingers up her leg; steal a lingering kiss on her bare shoulder at a bar. “Relax, guys. Have sex like there’s no tomorrow,” says Hayia.