Best Sex Position For A Woman To Reach An Organism
Coital Alignment Technique Sex Position - This position is designed to greatly improve a woman's chance of orgasm. Most women need to have clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm. Traditional thrusting in the missionary position often does not achieving this. The clitoris is about 2-3 cm closer to the front of the woman's body than the vaginal opening. Thus, it is possible, even probable that thrusting misses the clitoris all together. With the coital alignment sex position allows the man and woman's combined thrusting to do the job. This position is basically a revised missionary position, with the man on top each face to face or with the woman on top. What's different is that the man has vaginal sex with his partner from a higher angle than usual, thrusting pressure on the woman's clitoris while he enters and re-enters her in response to her pelvic thrusts.The man enters initially from between the woman's legs which are apart and slightly bent, but then lifts himself further up the length of her body so that his thrusts make contact with her clitoris. At the very same time the base of the man's penis is also being stimulated. By leaning to the right or left of her torso, the man can rest his weight partially on his partner and partially on whatever the platform is for this event. It is important for the man to relax his upper body. The woman can then wrap her legs around his, trying to extend the stretch of her legs so that her ankles are about at the height of his calves. With this position a woman can then begin to thrust her own pelvis, repeatedly making contact between her clitoris and the base of his penis. Basically this is a rocking back and forth in sync sort of thing with the focus on the clitoris and the base of the penis rather than being all about penetration.
Best Sex Position For A Man To Prolong His Organism
Cowgirl Sex Position - This woman on top position, also called the reverse missionary, or jackhammer. In this position, the man lies on his back or sits down in a chair of some kind while the woman sits on top of him facing him, with his body between her legs, and with her groin aligned over his to facilitate penetration. Often the man can delay his orgasm longer in this position because he is able to relax and focus on his orgasm instead of thrusting or balance as in other positions.
Best Sex Position For Overweight People
Doggy Style Sex Position - In this position the woman crouches on all fours with her legs slightly spread, while the man penetrates from behind. For overweight people, doggy style makes sense. Neither person is supporting the weight of the other, no one is required to bend very far and the areas of fat on the body can usually be dealt with effectively because the man has two free hands. This can allow him to lift his belly out of the way or to spread the woman's thighs.
Best Sex Position During Pregnancy
Spoons Sex Position - In the sexual spoons position the man lies on his side, with his knees bent while the woman lies on her side, with her back pressed against his front, her legs slightly parted, her hips tilted to one side, and her knees bent. They line up to align his penis with her vagina, and his penis is then guided into her vagina from the rear. This position allows the woman's stomach to be supported by the mattress.
Best Sex Position For Anal Sex
Cowgirl Anal Sex Position - In this positions the woman is on top of and man either facing or facing away from him. This is a great position because it allows the woman more control over the depth, rhythm and speed of penetration. More specifically, the woman can slowly push her anus down on the penis, allowing time for the anus muscles to relax around the penis.
G Spot Sex Position
Woman on Back Knees Up Over Chest - In this positions the woman lies on her back knees bent and feet on the man's chest. The man is on his knees lifts up the woman's hips. The man must position both his and the woman's hips so his penis will hit the g spot.
Doggy Style - In this position the man should try to position his hips so his penis will hit the front wall of the woman's vagina.
Rear Entry Woman Lying Face Down - In this position the woman lies on her stomach and the man lies on top with his legs out side of the woman's. The man should position himself as high up on the woman as possible to allow for a downward angle of his penis when entering the woman.
Woman on Top Facing The Man - This position is a favorite among woman because they can control the speed and angle. This is a great position to learn what a woman likes, let her teach you how she likes it.
Anal Sex Positions
Missionary Anal Sex Position - In this position the woman lies on her back. In order to achieve optimal alignment, the woman's legs should be in the air with the knees drawn towards the chest. Support such as a pillow under the woman's hips might also be useful. The man positions himself between the woman's legs. This position is often cited as good for beginners, because it allows for greater relaxation then other positions.
Doggy Style Anal Sex Position - The woman is either on all fours, or lies on her stomach. The man approaches and penetrates from the rear. This position maximizes the depth of penetration, which may be desirable by either or both partners, but can pose the risk of pushing against the sigmoid colon. This position makes easier a more vigorous thrusting action. A variation is the leapfrog position, in which the receptive partner angles the torso downward.
Rear Entry Position - This position involves the woman lying flat and face down, with the man straddling the thighs of the receiving partner. This can produce sensations different from the doggy position above.
Spooning Anal Sex Position - The man and woman both lie on their sides facing the same direction. This position allows the woman to greatly control initial entry and the depth, speed and force of subsequent thrusting.Cowgirl or Reverse
Cowgirl Anal Sex Position - In these positions the woman is on top of and straddling the man either facing or facing away from the man. This is a great beginning position, as this position allows the woman more control over the depth, rhythm and speed of penetration. More specifically, the woman can slowly push her anus down on the penis, allowing time for the anus muscles to relax around the penis before deciding to start riding up and down on the penis.Pick-up
Anal Sex Position – This position can be done on bed for greater intimacy, but can also be done standing up. With the woman on her back and the man on his knees, the man puts the woman's legs on top of his shoulders. The man then wraps his arms underneath the woman, lifting her off the bed while leaning back for balance. The man is supporting almost the entire weight of the woman's body, and moves the body up and down on top of his penis until ejaculation.
Cradle Anal Sex Position – This position can be done in a chair or a couch. The man sits on couch and the woman sits horizontally in the lap of the man. The man inserts his penis into anus of the woman while he wraps one arm around the shoulders and back of the woman and the other arm around the her knees and legs, and picks up the woman to craddle her. The woman can masturbate while the man rocks the her back and forth and up and down on top of his penis.
Dancing Dolphin Sex Position – This position is done in a spa or swimming pool. The man seats himself on the spa or pool step, so that his lower back is arched yet firm. The woman then slowly sits herself onto the man's penis. The woman then swivels in the water with the man's penis still deep inside her anus; using the spa or pool water to aid in anal lubrication and cooling. The man then slides off the step to thrust the anal probe deep into the woman's ass, while she treads water and masturbates.
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
SOME SEX POSITIOPN THAT WILL MAKE UR LIFE EXCITING & SPICY
Thirty one tips for women to make sex great for men
1) Learn how he likes his penis to be handled
His penis is not like your clitoris - it's not highly sensitive and delicate. So he'll want you to go straight for his penis during sex, and once you're there he'll want you to apply a firm pressure (though you can make sex last longer by teasing him and working gradually down his body towards his penis). Learn how he masturbates, if necessary by watching him, and you'll soon see the kind of stroke and pressure he appreciates most.
2) Play with his balls
Because men are so penis-centred, they and their partners tend to forget how sensitive and erotic his scrotum and testicles can be. Play with his balls as you give him fellatio, for example, and he'll be in heaven. You could even try taking one at a time into your mouth and gently rolling it around.
3) Play with his perineum
If you haven't discovered the erotic potential of his perineum yet - that's the area between his scrotum and anus - then another treat's in store. You can press, lick, stroke and tease this area, right up to his anus, and increase his sexual excitement enormously.
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4) When he comes, stimulate his anus
A finger on his anus when he comes can make a man's orgasm feel much more intense. If he's near his orgasm, it can make him come there and then. And if you put a (well-lubed) finger inside him and press his prostate gland when he comes, he's likely to have a massive orgasm!
5) Talk dirty as you make love
A lot of women are too inhibited to talk dirty during sex, but I'd say most men like it - a lot. If you tell him to "fuck my hot wet cunt" when you're both enjoying sex, he's most likely to come there and then!
6) Do something different
If you always employ the same old routine during sex, do something different. For example, try a different sex position. If you usually have sex with him on top, roll over so you're doing it on your sides, facing each other. If you haven't tried woman on top, get up there and ride him. If he likes rear entry (and which man doesn't?) then let him enter you from behind while you lie in the spoons position on the bed - that's more intimate than rear entry but probably just as exciting for him. Or take the initiative, and seduce him in the kitchen, making love on the table or the floor! These positions are especially fun to try when you're feeling horny.
7) Try watching porn together
Men like porn, and whether you appreciate it or not, it's here to stay, and he's most likely using it to get off. But the good news is that there is some nice erotic stuff around that isn't abusive to women. One name to watch out for is Femme Productions. Sharing a sexy DVD before you go to bed can really add a spark of passion and excitement to your sex.
8) Wake him up in the night for sex
A woman can always seduce a man subtly if she puts her mind to it. So see what happens if you press your buttocks up against him in the night, or if you press your hot vulva against his cock as he slumbers. Move your hips around a little as you do this, and he'll soon be raring to go. This might be best reserved for the nights you don't have an early start next day.
9) Use lube if you need to - or even if you don't
Even if you have a nicely moist vagina, a little extra lube is often a revelation. Just a squirt of Astroglide or Probe can change the feel of sex completely, making it seem like a new experience.
10) Try lube inside the condom
Just a little lube inside the condom can make sex much more pleasurable, but don't use too much or it might just slip off when you least expect it!
11) Be assertive during sex
Take the lead during sex, act like a sex goddess, and do all the work for a change. Men like their partners to be assertive and sexually dominant from time to time, because having the responsibility for always initiating sex is tiring and involves at least some rejection. It's a refreshing change when a woman acts as the dominant partner.Yes, girls, men want you to sometimes take the lead and be sexually assertive. If you aren't sure how to do this, start by climbing on top of him - the woman on top position can be very empowering for you, and he's sure to love it. You can control the depth and speed of thrusting, especially if you tell him to lie still and enjoy it while you ride him! Check out sex positions here: http://www.sex-techniques-and-positions.com/index.html A Lovers' Guide to Sex Positions
12) Let him masturbate between your breasts
Ladies, you just don't appreciate how much men like breasts. Even if you're used to him making a bee-line for them when you make love, you still don't know....just take it from me, it's like being in heaven when you fold them around his penis and let him thrust between them.
13) Alternate shallow and deep thrusts during vaginal intercourse
Men often like deep thrusting because it feels more powerful and sexy - and it makes them come quicker. But a good plan is to switch between deep thrusts and shallow ones as you make love, because shallow thrusts delay his orgasm, stimulate his glans and frenulum (the most sensitive bits of his penis), and they also hit your G-spot.
14) Press back against him as he thrusts
You don't have to be passive during sex. Even in the man on top position you can thrust back against him, buck your pelvis, and add all your sexual energy to his. If you're having sex in the rear entry position, get him to stand still while you move back and forth along his penis.
15) Tell him you how much you want him to fuck you
Assuming your man is just like the rest of us, he'll want to be told how much you admire, like and desire him. Whereas women want to be cherished by their partners, the corresponding desire in men is to be respected. Telling him how skillful and desirable he is as a lover will press all the right buttons.
16) Masturbate in front of him...
If you feel inhibited about masturbating in front of your partner - don't. Seeing you bring yourself off is just about as exciting as it gets for him.
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17) ...then make love to him
If you masturbate in front of him, he'll get so turned on, he'll be desperate to fuck you, and he won't last long when he does!
18) Teach him how you like him to masturbate you
Men aren't the most subtle creatures in the world when it comes to masturbation, so you may need to coach him in the best ways for you to reach orgasm. Show him what you like, how you like to be touched, and how this changes as you get more aroused.
19) Have your orgasm before he enters you
This is especially good for men who come quite quickly. If he goes down on you (or masturbates you) until you have an orgasm, the pressure on him not to come quickly during sex is much reduced. What's more, making love to you after you've had an orgasm means your vagina will still be hot, wet and swollen, and this will be a real turn-on for him, not to mention the fact that it will feel absolutely wonderful for him when he penetrates you.
20) Undress in front of him
Yes, we know you're self-conscious about your body. But here's the good news - he likes it. He knows it intimately, he makes love to it, and he sees it as a thing of beauty; he doesn't look for the flaws in it, like you might be tempted to do. So he'll love watching you undress, and if you add a little innocent seduction into the process, he'll get turned on and show you how much he appreciates your body when you do make love.
21) Buy some sexy underwear and wear it like it was made for you
You don't have to feel like a tart if you buy some sexy lingerie and act like a tease. High quality, pretty underwear is a turn on for both men and women.
22) Be wanton
It's a common male fantasy to be bedded by a wanton woman who'll act dirty and uninhibited. You can help him fulfill that fantasy by unleashing the sex goddess in yourself for a night. For example, try whispering to him when you're having a night out that you aren't wearing any underwear and that you're oozing with desire for him. See the look on his face and you'll know what I mean - but be prepared to have sex the moment you get through your door when you arrive home!
23) Ask him about his sexual fantasies - and perhaps act them out
But don't laugh when he tells you what they are. He may not have shared his innermost fantasies with you for all kinds of reasons; they may even be some of his deepest secrets. Even if you don't want to act them out, respect the fact that he shared them with you. If you do act them out, have fun, and don't take it too seriously.
24) Don't alienate him from the bedroom
Pretty frills and bright patterns and colors are all very well, but it's his bedroom too, and he may appreciate being consulted about how much lace you want around the place. In short, don't make your bedroom too feminine for his comfort.
25) Let his penis calm down after sex
Some men have such a sensitive glans after sex that they can't bear to have it touched for quite a while. So be careful of his penis after you have made love.
26) Explore his body
Despite being so penis centered, men do like being licked, touched and stroked all over their bodies. For example, a man's nipples are likely to be just as sensitive as yours - so encourage him to let you play with them. Some other places to stroke, tickle and lick him: his legs, buttocks and armpits; his neck and scalp; his toes; his back.....so that's just about all over his body, really!
27) Know how to kiss
Yes, it's nice to enjoy gentle kissing, but he'll certainly appreciate a bit of full-on mouth work from you from time to time. It hints at penetration and breaks down barriers to intimacy and familiarity.
28) Discover his favorite sexual positions
All the sex positions have something in their favor, but like most men, he'll have his favorite. It might be man on top for the deep penetration and feeling of dominance; it might be rear entry for the sheer pleasure of fucking you from behind; it might be woman on top for the pleasure of lying back and enjoying the ride. Most likely, it's all of them! But there will be ways in which you can make it even better for him, perhaps by squeezing his penis while he's inside you, or wrapping your legs around him when he's on top. Take the time to find out what turns him on, and he'll show his gratitude both in and out of the bedroom!
29) Don't fake orgasm
You're not a charity, and it's disrespectful to both of you to pretend you're sexually satisfied when you're not. If you don't make it to orgasm during intercourse, have your orgasm from him giving you oral sex before you have intercourse. Remember, very few woman actually reach orgasm through intercourse, and most they like it for other reasons such as feeling loved or giving their partner pleasure.
30) Learn to give great head
Nothing you can do for a man shows you love him like oral sex. Women think men like it because it feels good - and that's certainly true. But men also like it because it's the ultimate symbol of acceptance by their partner - that she will take his most precious part and accept it into her mouth. Good oral sex is at least as good as vaginal intercourse for me, and many other men as well, I'm sure. And when you know how to do it well, you'll have a lover keen to pleasure you in return.. You can read about oral sex tips here:http://www.my-penis.org/100sextips3.html
31) Develop a tight vagina
Apart from the fact that a healthy set of PC muscles is good for you, it does make a difference to men during sex whether their partner has a tight vagina or not. Some men say that making love to a woman who's had a child is much less satisfying - well, if the woman has toned up her muscles, with Kegel exercises, that need not be the case. So there we are! Some simple tips to make sex great for men. Like it or not, sex is incredibly important to most men, and most relationships go a lot better when the partners are enjoying fulfilling sex. If you as a woman get satisfaction from seeing your man happy in bed, then the tips above go a long way towards making that happen
Saturday, January 24, 2009
Does Penis Size Matter?
Men.com, penis size has remained an enduring interest to men for decades and is understandably a source of much anxiety. However, while size does matter, it really does not matter as much as most men think. The issue here is one of perception: Men perceive it as the defining element of their machismo, while women often evaluate the whole package: looks, style, intelligence, personality, and behavior.Regardless of whose perceptions are misplaced, penis size will forever persist as a primary concern for men worldwide, which is why AM has explored the topic so deeply. Look no further, as all you need to know is here, standing at the ready.Penis Size on AMAs a men's magazine, AM cares about its audience -- men -- and men care about penis size. It's really as simple as that. From penis enlargement to determining average penis size, from small penis sex positions to female perceptions, AM has you covered with endless information from the very basics right down to the nitty-gritty details.
Penis Size FactWhen surveyed, women consistently claimed that girth was more important than length. This surprising response is seemingly odd as there appears to be no physiological basis for such claims, although more girth may provide more clitoral stimulation.
What she's thinking
Logistical notes on penis size
Get in the game
penile pressuresIf you are truly concerned with your ability to fulfill your woman, try to learn all you can about satisfying her all round, and learning tips, techniques and positions that can maximize what you've got. If that doesn't work, a quick trim of the hedges can give you an extra visual inch to impress her with -- not that you should really care about penis size that much in the first place.
6 Rear-Entry Positions
Whether you're a fan of the anal or vaginal canal, sex from behind can provide for some of the best sex you'll ever have. And contrary to popular opinion, women enjoy this position just as much as men do.Today's tip is going to add a little gusto to the rear-entry position. If you weren't yet aware of it, something as simple as moving her leg slightly or angling your penis differently can turn your "bend over" into a roller coaster ride of orgasms.The original rear-entry position involves the woman on all fours and the man (that would be you) behind her on his knees, holding onto her hips as he penetrates her. But we're going to change all that.So without further ado, here are six ways to add a little kick to your doggie stylin'.
1- The tight grip
If your woman has great balancing capabilities, then you're in for a great treat. Your woman starts off on her hands and knees, like she normally would for the rear-entry position. The catch is that when you place your hands on her waist, your objective is to lift her legs up so that her feet are against your butt (OK that's not really your objective, but you know what I mean).Although this may be difficult at first, the sensations this position provides are enough to keep you going -- or coming, as the case may be. In this position, penetrate her slowly and deeply.
2- The leg spread
With her lying on her stomach with her legs straight and closed, straddle on top of her. Your legs should also be stretched out, and somewhat spread. Your arms should be straight and holding you up. Make your way in and keep in mind that this position works best with deep, slow penetration.And if you feel like getting romantic, bend your elbows and kiss her mouth. She will, however, have to meet you halfway.
3- Deep penetration
Again, she lies down on her stomach, but this time her legs are spread open and her knees are bent (her feet should be in the air).Using your hands for support, straddle her slowly at first, but make sure your legs are together. This allows for deep penetration, and whether you thrust slowly or quickly, I can virtually guarantee that both you and she will achieve monumental orgasms.To add variation to this position, simply angle her thighs in different ways.
4- The chair bend over
Finally, props! Bend your woman over on a chair and have her lean on it with her elbows facing the spine of the chair. Enter her from behind and, with your left hand, lift her left leg and place it on your hip.Again, if you like deep penetration, then this position will take you far. To avoid injury or pain, place pillows under your and her knees. This will allow both of you to concentrate on the pleasure and not your cracking bones.
5- Stand and bang
For this position, you should both be on your feet, preferably in front of a mirror. Have her lean against the wall, office desk, etc., with her hands, and make your way behind her and inside her. You can use your hands to hold her waist, lean against the wall, or even play with her clitoris.The mirror will add more appeal to the position, as she will be able to look at you as you're doing your thing. As well, you get to see the look on her face as she reaches her climax.
6- The sideway insert
In this position, your woman should lie on her side (either side), lean on one elbow, and bring her legs forward. Lean on your hands, placing one on either side of her, and stretch your legs out as you place yourself inside.As well, you can opt to bend your knees and hold one of her legs up in the air (and possibly place it on your shoulder). This position provides more control over your thrusting.Or, you can always spoon it. Leaving her in the aforementioned position, make your way directly behind her, also leaning on your side, and press your body against hers as you thrust your way in.
Masturbation - fun or folly?
At the risk of sounding like a broken record, or worse yet, dismissive of your concerns, the real "harm" here is not physical. It's all the worry, shame, and conflict attached to masturbation by so many men, women, and children, thanks to negative associations with all kinds of sex — done by one's self and with others.
Strong negative messages play a role
These messages come from so many influential places — often for most of one's lifetime. It may not be true for you, but this cloud that hangs over many masturbators might send some looking for physical "harm" from this popular practice. It can be a way of justifying any bad feelings and beliefs about masturbation that might never allow going it alone totally okay.
"Blame everything on masturbation"That said, your "blame-it-on-masturbation" reasoning is understandable. If one sprouts hair in "strange" places, sports dark circles under the eyes, and says goodbye to those always reliable erections during and after stretches of solo-sex, one could easily conclude that these unwanted reactions came on as a result of whacking off.
Then, could it not also be said that hair loss, far-sightedness, and love handles also owe it to masturbation? And what about greater self-confidence, career changes, and the urge to buy property? The point: is it possible that all of these occurrences stem from something besides genital stimulation? Might aging also be the culprit?
It may not come up 'round the copier and coffee table, but many twenty- and thirtysomethings now include big black nose and ear hair plucking in their regular grooming routine. They'd also put down difficulty getting it up and keeping it there as a getting older symptom. Bags under the eyes? Yep, that's on the list, too.
Why not conduct this experiment?
If you're not convinced that masturbation doesn't play a direct role in the physical "consequences" that you're now experiencing, how about conducting an experiment? Masturbate less often, or refrain from doing it for a few months. and see if your symptoms disappear.
Take note that not "relieving" yourself for an extended period of time may lead to other unwanted physical and psychological situations, including irritability, difficulty concentrating, insomnia, and wet dreams. Now, it is possible that any stress, guilt, disgust, etc. with your personal sex play is making it harder to get and stay hard — these feelings are frequently powerful obstructions to sexual arousal. Also, if you're masturbating past your bedtime, dark circles may stare back at you the next morning. (Elna McIntosh)
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Positions To Help You Last Longer
BEFORE YOU GET STARTED
Keep in mind that it takes more than just sex positions to help you last longer. First off, you need to keep a positive frame of mind. Don't turn it into a self-fulfilling prophecy by continuously telling yourself that you can't do it. You can, especially if you believe you can.
If you have some sort of medical drawback, like erectile dysfunction, then these positions to help you last longer obviously won't work for you. Be realistic and get yourself to a professional as soon as you can to optimize your sex life.
IT'S ALL A GAME
Turning foreplay into a game of lustful sexual containment can be more fun than the actual sex itself. Make your foreplay last. After all, when have you ever heard a woman saying, "He kisses my lips and goes down on me for way too long?" That's what I thought.
Enjoy the time you have together and stop focusing on the actual sex because that'll likely cause you to get more nervous, and end up leaving her in the bathroom with a vibrating shower nozzle. Make it a total body experience, not just a penis one -- oh, and learn to please her in the shower as well.
PLAY WITH IT MASTER
You've all heard it before: Practice makes perfect. Don't be shy guys, you did it when you first discovered that something other than urine comes out of your penis, and you can do it now.Masturbation is not a four-letter word (there we go, stating the obvious) and if you want to understand your own waterworks, you're going to have to play the "getting to know you" game with yourself.
By stroking yourself and figuring out at which point you feel like ejaculating, you can learn how to maintain your erection and avoid premature incidents. Also, you can bring yourself to the point where you feel like you're about to lose it and stop yourself until the feeling goes away. Keep it up until an adequate amount of time has passed and then let the rivers flow freely.
THIS IS YOUR MISSION
Perhaps it is not the most explosive of sexual positions and, hey, it may not even merit the "Best Position in the Bedroom" award. This position, nonetheless, is most helpful for men who want to prolong coitus.
Speaking of coitus, you can try practicing coitus interruptus, which entails deliberately withdrawing your slimy guy from her vagina prior to ejaculation and holding it. Soon afterwards, you may insert your little guy back in and continue on your merry way.
Remember that the instant she lifts her legs in the air or you lift your own body, you may end up feeling more intense sensations. We, therefore, recommend that you begin with body-to-body missionary and slowly work your way up with variety.
SIT IN FRONT OF ME
Another great position that'll help most men last longer in the sack is the "sitting inside each other" position. You sit with your legs crossed and she sits atop you doing the same and controlling the tempo.
The great thing about this position is that you get to rub her back or pull her by the shoulders and suck on her breasts with ease. As well, she can bite into your neck or rub your back while you both enjoy a constant sexual pace.
When you become accustomed to this situation and learn adequate peniscontrol, then you can give her some new instructions and get her to squat up and down on your member while she uses her hands to balance herself on your knees.
RIDE 'EM COWGIRL
Although some guys lose control, considering they don't have any power when the woman on top does all the maneuvering, many men find a woman's back-and-forth thrusting (rather than up and down) very comfortable.
Allowing her to take control of the situation can help you concentrate on keeping yourorgasm at bay. As well, you get to watch your sweetheart bounce around while she does her thing.
Once the thrusting thing becomes child's play for you, you can try letting her squat. But be warned: The squatting position is likely to make you lose your mind (and your semen) a lot faster. That's because her vagina tends to hug your penis rather tightly, and your genitals and hers are the only two body parts that are touching.
SIDE BY SIDE
This position should usually be reserved for morning sex. With her back facing you, lift up one of her legs and insert yourself inside her warm fleshy area.
Although the initial feeling may be that of tightness, if you brace yourself, the feeling will become more comforting. Many guys are able to control themselves and last longer in this position.
TAKE YOUR TIME
Move slowly and don't rush things. Getting overly excited won't do you any good so just keep things calm and at an unhurried, steady tempo. She'll be impressed with your ability to control yourself.
Obviously, these positions won't work wonders for everyone, but they will definitely feel great for many. Remember, if you have a problem, see your doctor promptly and don't play the game of denial. And there you have it, some easy ways to keep her satisfied and get a little satisfaction of your own at the same time.
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
Orgasm : Do You Show Up For the Big O?
Do you show up - I mean really show up - when you have sex or make love? You might think, "Well, anyone would show up for that, right?" In the past, I would have agreed with this statement. Now, I have some serious doubts. I firmly believe in the importance of showing up and being present. Being present is essential to creating a full, sensuous, enjoyable experience of life. Though "being present" may sound like something that should be easy, in actuality, it poses a great challenge for many or most of us. Few people realize how little time they spend truly being present... even for events that should be pleasurable.
The more I learned about becoming aware and being present, the more I realized how little time I had been spending in awareness or in the present. I once had what was, to myself at that time, the embarrassing realization that -- almost whenever I was making love -- I would suddenly transport myself, mentally, to places I had been before. Without any warning or logical connection to anything, my mind would take me to a square in Florence, a house in Greece, an outdoor hot-tub in Arizona, or a cliff overlooking the Pacific Ocean in California. One time I recall, out of the blue, seeing myself as a fourth grader on the playground outside the elementary school I attended as a child. When I caught myself, all I could think was, "What the hell am I doing here?" It was not the most flattering moment for a young woman who had been striving to be a wonderful, sensual lover! Needless to say, I certainly was not experiencing great passion and intimacy in the moments I was completely "checked out."
In order to have a heightened, sensual experience, you really need to get present. In particular, you need to show up for the "Big O"! Okay, well maybe some of you can have a half-decent orgasm while fantasizing about some Playboy Bunny or Chippendale hunk, and/or some Victoria's Secret model or that stud in the latest Calvin Klein underwear ad. But I truly believe that you cannot have a fully embodied, "blow your mind and curl your toenails" kind of orgasm when your mind is wandering off somewhere. Neither can you build deep intimacy with a romantic partner under such circumstances, if that is what you are seeking to do.
Do you show up for the "Big O"? If you are not certain about whether or not you are truly present, then -- assuming that if you are reading this you probably are sexually active -- this may be one area in which to test yourself. You may want to ask yourself some of these questions (either while making love or while reviewing it afterward):
- Am I truly feeling, seeing, and engaging in what is happening in the moment?
- Am I truly experiencing the person I am with - rather than taking for granted that I already know him or her?
- Am I comparing him or her to a previous lover or to some ideal lover I have in my mind?
- Am I fantasizing about someone else?
- Am I concerned about the time?
- Am I worrying about work/studying/errands I should be doing now, or need to do later?
- Is my mind wandering to financial concerns or other challenges in my life?
In other words, the main question is:
Am I really here, or am I "checked out" and thinking about someone or something else?
Of course, you can ask similar questions about whether or not you truly are present for any experience in life that you are having, not just intimate or sexual experiences. If you discover, in this process of questioning, that you are not present very often, do not feel dismayed: this just means that you are a pretty normal human being. Realizing that you are not present can serve as a wake up call: When you become aware enough to "catch yourself" when you are checked out, you can begin to bring yourself back to the present. Many of us avoid the present. When we are in the present, we really allow life to impact us: hence, we feel vulnerable to life, and thus potentially vulnerable to feeling pain. However, it is only in taking the risk of being present that we can experience sheer joy and ecstasy, as well. So, the next time you are making love, take a risk: Show up for the "Big O"!
Prolong your Lovemaking: Making It Last
| How many of us are dissatisfied with our sex lives? Quite a plentitude of people want more or have trouble getting there because their lovers are finished before they have even started, or worse that they finish right when she's just warming up. As much as we would like to, we can't just lay blame on our lovers. We must take responsibility for our bodies/souls needs and create what we want and how we want it. "I always psyche myself into believing I'm some hot little sex kitten. I play out in my mind what I'd like to do with him and get very graphic. This always keeps me going. - "When entertaining a man one cannot neglect the setting. Make sure it's a place where both of you can be relaxed. Comfort is a major key when becoming intimate. Mellow lighting lots of pillows and silky sheets make for a nice start for my honey and I! I want him to know were going to be there for a while."-Marta S, Fla. |
This may sound old fashioned but it can really make a difference when you take the time to know your lover. I mean really know them. How can your souls collide if you aren't connected on an emotional level? The quickie animal stuff just isn't for me!"-Trinidad "Most important for me is to trust your partner and to be loving with each other. I feel so vulnerable in intimate conditions, that I would rather wait for the loving relationship, rather than settle for some cheap sex." - "Don't get so set on the goal of orgasm. Enjoy sex for the moment and give attentions to the whole experience. Don't just focus on your genitals."- "Stop for a rest, when things start to slow down a bit. I find it fun and reviving to make a refrigerator raid. I usually keep plenty of goodies ready, I come running back to the bedroom or living room with treats, and before you know it we are at it again. It's fun to feed each other chocolate cherries ... then some yummy kisses can commence."- "Show him what you want. I actually ask my lovers to do this or bite harder on my nipples; there's no harm in getting it right. The men are usually very happy to accommodate my demands! - "I think most men do have a tender side to their nature, but society has put these stereotypes out there that make them think they have to be the hard driving, macho erection machine. Let him know that you don't want him to restrain himself from more tender expressions of his love. Men are conditioned to think they have to be "all that" all of the time. Take off the pressure."-Sonja, New Zealand |
Monday, January 12, 2009
Sex Position of the Week
EROTIC INSTRUCTIONS: Your partner slouches down in a comfy but sturdy chair, his legs slightly spread. You straddle his lap as you face him, your knees bent and open against his chest, your feet braced against the seat of the chair. While your guy grips your hips, thighs, or butt, you clutch the back of the chair and begin moving up and down along his shaft.
WHY YOU'LL LOVE IT: It's traditional girl-on-top with a tempting twist, explains Joan Elizabeth Lloyd, author of Now and Forever: Let's Make Love (Warner Books, 1997). With your knees bent and your hands and feet using the chair as a springboard, it's the bounciest nooky style ever — perfect for teasing your guy with fast up-and-down action, then shifting gears and going for wide circular motions. Plus, your bodies are close enough for the intimacy of kissing, touching, or just giving each other incredibly lusty looks.The slicker, the better as you ride this wanton wave. Before you start bonking his buoy, grab a little extra lube to keep things extra wet. Heat things up more by putting your motion lotion on each other — the feel of your hands sliding against his most sensitive spots will definitely get him in the mood.
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
20 Things She Notices About You
1. Your well-muscled left forearm. Conveniently located directly above the very first thing I notice: your ring finger.
2. Your skin tone. 1 percent increase in tan = 47 percent increase in muscle tone.
3. Your resemblance to a rock. The Rock, Kid Rock, and all the rocks in between are equally attractive. So stop worrying about your body type. I like them all.
4. Your lungs. When you suck in your gut to impress me, I'm charmed silly.
5. Your stride. I love watching a man who's confident and in shape enough to run shirtless on the beach. You're barefoot, too? My heart is racing.
6. Your swim trunks. No Speedos, please. Just something stylish that shows off your moneymaker.
7. Your moneymaker. It's not what you're thinking . . . I mean those lines that start near your hips and plummet down to your groin. They make you extremely hot . . . and me very, very bothered.
8. Your resemblance to Spider-Man. Women think Tobey Maguire is sexy. And you look like you can totally kick his ass.
9. Your calves. Especially when you're playing volleyball, sprinting for the Frisbee, riding your bike, or on your hands and knees helping a 5-year-old dig a sandcastle moat.
10. Your body in jeans . . . and a linen dress shirt with rolled-up sleeves and a backward baseball cap, all while you're splashing around with your black Lab in the surf at sunset. No, you're not wearing or doing that now. But I'm imagining you are, and you look freaking fetching.
11. Your rear view. Three words: lower-back dimples.
12. Your activity level. Have you been lying out? Or working out?
13. Your shoulder muscles. At some point I will determine whether you're strong enough to save me when I pretend to be caught in the undertow.
14. Your brainpan. Turn the right kind of pages and you can really turn me on. What are you reading—Melville? Or Maxim?
15. Your accessories. Sunglasses and thong flip-flops = instant appeal.
16. Your attire. Salty, sandy, sun-kissed, and wearing a well-worn white T-shirt? I don't care what's under your shirt, because I can only think about getting naked.
17. Your courage. You didn't dip your toe to test the water before jumping in.
18. Your eyes. My eyes are open under these Jackie O. sunglasses, boy, and I can see you checking me out.
19. Your beer belly. A small one's not so bad. A tiny bit of soft flesh over the waistband is forgivable. (Just don't look like you swallowed the keg.)
20. Your belly button. Innie? Outie? Doesn't matter. Weirdly erotic, either way.
50 Things Women Wish Men Knew
1. Saying "I love you" immediately before, during, or following sex doesn't count.
2. Real men drive stick shift.
3. I will leave if you lie.
4. You are cute in raglan-sleeved T-shirts (two-toned baseball undershirts).
5. I'm convinced I'm pregnant and obsess about it for a minimum of 24 to 48 hours before my period, even when I have no rational reason to think so.
6. I love it when you hug me from behind and whisper in my ear.
7. "Fine" is never an appropriate response when I ask you how I look.
8. Most of the time when I fantasize, it's about you.
9. I'm terrified of becoming my mother, even though I admire her.
10. I get turned on simply seeing that I have an e-mail from you.
11. I expect you to call me.
12. Only rock stars are allowed to wear leather pants.
13. I'm scared of losing my independence.
14. I'm more forgiving of you than I really should be.
15. Oral sex is your get-out-of-the-doghouse-free card. Manolo Blahnik shoes also do the trick.
16. You did something bad. I seem cool with it. I'm not. (See directly above.)
17. If I'm not having sex with you, I'm . . . a.) . . . having a fat day. b.) . . . not feeling "connected" to you. c.) . . . blackmailing you to get something I want.
18. Shoes determine whether you're fashionable or not.
19. I own a Debbie Gibson CD, and I'm not afraid to use it.
20. When I compare my flabby tummy to a kangaroo pouch, say nothing.
21. A man I love plans the occasional fancy-schmancy dress-up date and impromptu weekend getaways, and he buys my favorite candy in advance when we're just going to the movies.
22. You look hot in hooded clothing items.
23. You should never tell me what to do.
24. If I slept over, you owe me breakfast.
25. My breasts love much licking and sucking.
26. If you ask me out directly, I will say yes.
27. I'm very impressed when you ask for my advice.
28. I'm unimpressed with a man who doesn't take the lead.
29. When in doubt, go with the shirt that matches your eye color.
30. I want to be Madonna.
31. Women get urinary-tract infections easily, so watch (and wash) your fingers.
32. I'm in heaven when you hold my hand.
33. You're sexy when you're: shaving, fixing things, wearing a white T-shirt and jeans, driving, eating a peach, holding a baby.
34. I need to hear how you feel about me. Often. Tell me now.
35. Surprises, especially gifts for moi = more loving.
36. I want to be the best thing that ever happened to you—and for you to recognize this.
37. If I'm not feeling loved, I will start looking . . .
38. Discussion of ex-gf's and ex-bf's should be avoided at all times.
39. I like it when you tell me what you're thinking, even if you don't know yourself.
40. Celebrating our anniversary, even if it's only been a few months, earns major bonus points.
42. It's best to consult your gal pals for gift ideas.
43. A lady should always be greeted with kisses.
44. I like porn.
45. I love holding your bum in the palms of my hands.
46. Even nice girls like hushed dirty talk in public.
47. It's cheating as soon as you're doing something with her that you wouldn't want me to see, hear, read . . .
48. For the record: I'd rather you break up with me than cheat.
49. I remember everything about our relationship.
50. You should know all this and more without my telling you.
The Top 10 Signs She's Interested in You
Some women go out looking for sex. Here's how to find them and make it happen.
1. She's Chatting Up the Bartender
A flirtatious woman can hardly contain herself. She won't let a male waiter or bartender take her order without flashing a smile and saying something silly, like, "What can you make me that would be really yummy?"
2. She's Scanning the Room
When women go out to bond with friends, they have blinders on. If they're not looking around, don't bug them. But when they want to mingle, they'll be scanning for cute men. They may even sit facing the room instead of each other.
3. She's Playing Games
Darts, pool, pinball—women know this makes them easier to approach. That's why they do it. It's easy to get a man's attention when you're about to jab him in the ribs with a pool cue.
4. Her Drink is Big, Frozen, and Blue
She's ready to party, which means meeting new people and having a good time, not getting naked with the first guy who buys her another round. But sometimes it does mean getting naked with the first hot, cool guy who buys her another round.
5. She Sends You a Zoolander Eye Lock
And the eyebrow raise, and/or at least two smiles (full, open-lipped, teeth smiles). Go over there and talk to her already. Caveat: There's a small chance she just thinks you're funny looking, but go ahead, have some balls. She's worth it.
6. Her Pupils are Dilated
If she's feeling stimulated by you (not just sexually), her pupils will dilate. That's because her body is programmed to want to see more of whatever's exciting her, so her brain tells her irises to let in more light. Time to make your move.
7. She Lets You Get Close
As you flirt, stand or sit within 6 inches of her. If she seems unruffled, move closer. Eventually you want your thigh to be pressed against hers, whether you're standing or sitting. If she's into it, she won't back off.
8. She's a Chatterbox
If she leans forward when you're talking or asks you endless questions, the only way to shut her up is to kiss her.
9. She Uses Her Tongue
A make-out session is a prerequisite to any sexual proposition. Kiss her lips softly and note how intensely she's kissing back. You want the "I want to eat you alive" kind of kiss, not the sweet "I'm not a dirty girl" kind of kiss.
10. She's Wearing Thigh-High Stockings
Women only wear sexy underthings when they're expecting a man to see them. If she's wearing a thong, she's trying to avoid panty lines, but sex is on her mind, too. Anything black, red, pink, leopard print, or lace equals "I want you."
