Safe Sex

What Is Safe Sex, What Is Safer Sex?

Safe sex, also known as "safer sex," involves protecting yourself and your partner from sexually transmitted diseases and infections (STDs). STDs include Chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, trichomoniasis, genital herpes, genital warts, hepatitis B, hepatitis C and HIV.

Safe sex also involves getting tested for STDs each time you have a new sex partner. If you discover that you have an STD or HIV, it's important to get treated by a doctor and tell your partner so he or she can get tested and treated, too.

What's The Best Way To Protect Myself?

Cover up! Use a barrier on any part of your body that might come into contact with your partner's bodily fluids. First and foremost, this means using a latex condom whenever you have vaginal, oral or anal intercourse.
Condoms are the best way to avoid contracting and spreading most STDs. Condoms prevent bacteria and viruses found in semen, vaginal fluids and blood from coming into contact with your body.
It's important to always use a condom and to use it correctly each time. Don't use the same condom twice--ever.
Latex gloves may be used to protect your hands during digital penetration. Plastic wrap creates a protective barrier during mouth-to-genital contact with a girl or mouth-to-anus contact with a guy or a girl.

What About Using Lube With a Condom?

Lubrication, or "lube," can make sex more comfortable and enjoyable. However, beware: Oil and latex don't mix. Using lotion, Vaseline or any other oil-based substance with a condom breaks down the latex and prevents it from protecting you.

If you use lube with a condom, be sure it's water-based. KY Jelly, Wet and Astroglide are a few types of water-based lube available at your local drugstore or supermarket.

Where Can I Get Condoms and Lube?

Condoms, lube, latex gloves and more are available at your local pharmacy, Planned Parenthood and teen health centers.

What If My Partner's On The Pill?

Birth control pills and contraceptive injections prevent pregnancy, but don't protect you or your partner from STDs. In other words, it's still important to use condoms.

Why Is Safe Sex So Important?

In addition to preventing the spread of disease, having safe sex puts your mind--and your partner's--at ease. When you're calm and content, sex is much more fun.

Sex with a new partner

Chill out
Calm down now. Performance anxiety isn't pretty, and it takes all the fun out of sex. In fact, too much anxiety might end up meaning there's no performance at all, if you get the drift. Take it easy, and lower your expectations. First-time sex with a new partner is more about exploring each other's bodies and getting to know them better, rather than putting on a show and trying too hard to impress.
Take your time
What worked brilliantly with a previous sexual partner may not work now, but that's no reflection on your prowess as a lover. Different people respond to different things, and finding out what can be half of the fun. Nerves can get in the way too, and sometimes it takes a while before someone can get naked and relax. If either of you are feeling too stressed, just take the pressure off; you don't need to have sex there and then. Wait until you're both sure that you're ready. If you've decided to go back to yours, and sex is on the cards, then a little preparation goes a long way. Make them feel special and comfortable. Tidy up a bit, have something good in the fridge for breakfast, and stock up on their favourite drink. Oh, and make sure you've got enough condoms, because running down to the late night garage with a hard-on or a hitched-up skirt is not a good look, and it kind of breaks up the mood.
If you're going back to their place, be a good guest. Don't make an automatic assumption that they want to have sex with you, and take your own condoms as well, just in case. You'll get extra points for turning up on time, looking and smelling good. Let them know you're having a good time and like their company.
Have a laugh
It's only perfect in the movies. Nobody's psychic. You have to tell one another what you like and want, and if you're not enjoying something then don't be scared to ask for something different instead. If you are pulling out all of the stops to please your new partner, make sure they make an effort to do something pleasurable for you too - there should be some give and take. Keep a sense of humour at all times, and if you fall out of bed or get cramp in your toes then laugh it off instead of getting embarrassed or worried. Even if you cringe at the time, it could be something you both look back on later with a warm fuzzy glow. "Remember the time when we. . .?"

Sex and drugs

LSD/ Magic mushrooms
High: Some users report an increased sexual awareness while tripping.Low: Trips are unpredictable. Hallucinating unpleasantly during sex could be traumatic, while a heavy dose may leave users totally turned off.
Cocaine
High: Cocaine is a stimulant drug. In small doses it can increase sexual arousal and make orgasms and erections easier. Low: In larger amounts, cocaine can still fuel sexual desire, while decreasing the ability to actually perform properly. Problems achieving erection and orgasm are very common.
Amphetamines (speed)
High: The initial rush may lift the libido, but the feeling is unlikely to last.Low: Male users may find the penis is less sensitive or responsive, and ejaculation difficult to achieve. As a result, sex can last a long time - which places both partners at risk of chafing (rubbed raw skin). Painfully funny on paper. Pure pain, in reality.
Cannabis
High: Users can feel less inhibited and unfriendly, while the increased sensory perception can turn stoners all touchy-feely.Low: Blokes on dope risk a reduction in testosterone production, and a drop in sperm count, while females may experience some fertility problems due to changes in ovulation and menstrual cycles.
Ecstasy
High: An increased sense of warmth and empathy towards sexual partner. Some users feel they are more physically aroused, (although others report a loss of sensation and delayed orgasm).Low: Increases the chances of risky sexual behaviour. A recent study showed users were more likely not to bother using condoms or other forms of contraception. Also, the drug-induced sense of loving everyone around you could mean you wind up sleeping with someone you don't really like at all.
Opiates
High: Drugs such as heroin, morphine and codeine belong to a drug group called opiates, which have a painkilling, detached effect. Codeine, in particular, is a feature in some strong over-the-counter painkilling products, so about the only appeal there, sex-wise, is that headaches won't wash as an excuse.Low: Opiate misuse can lead to full time problems such as impotence, lowered libido and difficulty attaining orgasm.
Poppers (alkyl nitrites)
High: Some users take poppers during sex because they enjoy the brief, intense head rush and relaxant effect. Particularly popular among gay men.Low: Alkyl nitrites reduce blood pressure. This means Viagra users should steer clear as the combination could be fatal.
The potential effect of a drug on sex is just one of many factors to consider before taking any substance. Knowledge is power, so get wise to the risks involved right.

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Teens and Sex

Why teens start having sex in the first place. Environment, age of partner and perceived family support may affect young people's decisions to have sex.

While the media bombards us with alarming statistics about the number of teenagers having sex, few reports shed light on what might encourage teens to become sexually active in the first place. Three studies offer some insight into sexually active teens: environment, age of partner and perceived family support may affect young people's decisions to have sex.
In a study presented at a meeting of the American Public Health Association (APHA), researchers at the University of Kentucky followed 950 teenagers at 17 high schools in Kentucky and Ohio from 9th to 11th grades. They found evidence that teens who have intercourse tend to think their friends are too, even if they're not. "You're 2.5 times more likely to have sex by the 9th grade if you think your friends are having sex -- whether or not they really are," says Katharine Atwood, assistant professor at the Kentucky School of Public Health. Plus, teens tended to overestimate how many of their friends were sexually active. Only 33 percent of kids in the study had had sex by the 9th grade, but 31 percent said that most or all of their friends had had sex. "If you can persuade them that fewer are having sex than they think," she says, "that can have a significant impact on their behavior."
Among young girls, a partner's age is a risk factor for sexual activity. "The younger the girl is at the age of first intercourse, the more likely she is to have a much older partner," says Harold Leitenberg, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Vermont. His study, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, found that of 4,201 girls in 8th through 12th grades, those who lost their virginity between ages 11 and 12 tended to have partners five or more years older. For girls who had sex later in adolescence, the partner's age disparity was much smaller. Early sexual initiation was also associated with a number of behavioral problems. "Ignoring the age of the partners, the earlier a girl was when she first had intercourse, the greater her risk of suicide attempts, alcohol use, drug abuse, truancy and pregnancy," Leitenberg says.
The good news is that while teen sex may not be wholly preventable, the health risks it involves can be reduced through communication within the family. More research presented at the APHA meeting showed that frequent parent-child discussions about sex and its dangers may prevent teenagers from engaging in risky sexual behavior. Researchers at Emory University questioned 522 sexually active African-American adolescents about the openness and support that their families provided. Adolescents who felt that their families were more supportive were less likely to have unprotected sex, and thus were at a lesser risk for pregnancy and disease.

How to Paint Interiors: Choosing the Color Combinations

Choosing appropriate color combinations to paint interiors

Study the impression of the colors. This is the first and foremost thing you need to do. To know about the effect of colors, you need to know how the colors will look in varied intensities. Here’s a useful tip. You may paint a tiny patch on the walls with the colors you want to use. Now, study the way these colors appear at different times of the day. This will help you to judge the lighting and get a feel how the room will ultimately look and the kind of feelings it would evoke subsequently.

Plan the look of the interiors. While choosing color combination, you need to be aware of the look you are planning for. Is the room for children or is it for adults? Do you want a sophisticated look or do you want something that is completely funky? The kind of look you opt for also helps to decide the kind of shades one needs to go for.

Before you paint your interiors, let’s take a look at some of the basics of the color wheel. These are some of the commonly used colors to paint the interiors.

Yellow: Use of yellow on the walls is said to create a feeling of welcome and warmth. However, a bright shade of yellow may turn out to be rather attention-grabbing. A useful tip would be to use this color in areas that receive minimum light.

Blue: This color is known to create a feeling of calmness. However, blue as a color is very cold, so it’s preferable you leave this option for the bedroom and use sunny colors for the kitchen or office space.

Orange: Orange is itself a warm color and can be used with varied intensities. A pure shade of orange is recommended only on smaller areas.

Violet: Violet is quite a popular shade for libraries and bedrooms. This color can be used successfully even for children’s rooms. When used in lighter shades, it also soothes the senses.

Green: This color is also known to create a relaxing feeling like blue. A light shade of green is considered ideal for the kitchen area.

Pink: Pink may not always be used for a larger surface but it can be used in lighter tones. Light shades of pink create a pleasant feeling altogether.

Brown: Brown tends to soothe and is basically used when one is looking out for warm colors schemes. Brown creates a feeling of warmth and is recommended for places that experience cold weather.

Grey: This color is considered to be an executive color. Grey can be used in different variations as a support for other colors and is mainly used for commercial interiors.

Red: Red is a powerful color and can be used in limited ways to enhance the look of a room. Darker shades of red can be used to create a comforting atmosphere.

Black: Black is used when one wants to create a stunning and dramatic effect. Although black is considered to be sophisticated, it cannot be used in larger proportions. For example, a specific portion of the wall can be painted in black, which can serve as a backdrop for photographs.

White: White is considered to be a peaceful color and is mainly used for commercial places and hospitals. In the recent times, white is also used in combination with black for home interiors. The combination of white with black gives an elegant and sophisticated look and can be used for living rooms.

Always work keeping in mind the kind of furniture you have in the house or office. You can opt for shades present in the furniture. If you are yet to purchase the furniture, then you can choose pieces that blend well and balance the colors used on the walls. Use cool colors for a feeling of peace and serenity. Cool colors include blue, green and violet. If the room to be painted is a commercial place or a dining area, you can use warm shades. Warm colors are red, orange and yellow. Dark browns are also used to create a warm environment. Pastel shades are another option for people who wish to create a feeling of large and airy rooms. Pastel shades simply refer to colors that have a larger proportion of white. Cool and warm colors can blend well with neutral colors. Neutral colors include shades of black, white and gray. These neutral colors can be used in stylish combinations. A combination of cool and warm colors may give high, contrasting effects. In that case, you can use lesser proportions of either. This will help to create a balanced effect while painting the room.

Interior decorating can be enjoyable when you have your basics sorted out. If you have a good sense of color, you are bound to enjoy planning the interior decoration of your home or office space. It’s time you picked the color palette and have a splash with your favorite colors!

How to Make Love - 5 Tips For Making Love the Right Way

Love makes the world go round. And an extension to it is making love to your partner. When you love someone, it can be taken to the next level by making love to that person. Making love connects both of you emotionally and it builds an intimacy that is very healthy for both. Lovemaking is generally full of fun and energy when we are young but after few years of togetherness, it might become just a mundane routine. It is a known fact that not many people experience satisfaction in making love after being together for some time. We get so lost in the rat race that we tend to ignore the most beautiful part of a relationship between two lovers.

What is the solution to this problem? Is there any way to bring back the lost magic and feel the same sexual energy that you once had? Yes! It is possible to bring the spark back into your lovemaking. All it takes is the will to bring it back and small efforts from both the partners. Here are a few tips for making love the right way.

* Setting the mood: Setting the mood is what converts the ordinary into extra ordinary. Imagine the pleasure your partner is going to experience when you set the surroundings for making love. Dim light, soft romantic or passionate music, lighting aroma candles all around, can be used for creating the right atmosphere for making love. Besides setting the mood it gives a feeling of importance to your partner that you wanted to make it special for him/her.

* Sensual touch: When the mood is set, you would not be able to keep your hands off each other. This is where you have to be careful. Don't be in a hurry to start lovemaking. Hold your partner for a long time. Touch each other slowly, tenderly, and sensually and enjoy each other's body. This foreplay is going to elevate your pleasure and make you ready for the main attraction.

* Communication: This is a very important aspect of making love. When you like something your partner is doing, don't forget to appreciate. When you want your partner to do something, don't forget to ask. Don't force your wishes on to your partner and respect his/her wishes too. Communication is not just appreciation or request, you must also tell your partner how much you love him or her, how much you enjoy making love to him/her and how much you need your partner.

* Experiment: Why does making love lose its charm? It is because you want to do it the same way every time. Be experimental and spontaneous! Try making love in different places and in different ways. A quickie once in a while can also be an aphrodisiac. It is going to bring in a lot of excitement and a lot of fun.

* Take your time: Don't be in a rush to finish things off. Remember that you are not performing a duty that needs to be completed in time. Lovemaking is for enjoyment, intimacy and satisfaction. Taking time, holding back will give both of you more intimate experience and in the end, a wonderful climax!

3 Love Making Tips for Married Couples

Since you've probably been making love with each other for a number of years and wonder why you need to read an article about love-making, you may be in for a few surprises if you do.

There might be a few things that you've forgotten along the way and there might be a few things that you might want to try that are new.

So here goes a few love making tips just for you...

1. Make time for love and romance. Time can certainly slip away from you and you can put love making on the back burner, figuring you'll get to it when things calm down. If you're like most people, you have to make time for what's important in your life. If intimate time with your partner is important to you, make time for it. If being spontaneous never seems to work out, schedule a "love date" and then don't allow "life" to get in the way.

2. If you don't feel like making love, say so, but be honest with your partner and yourself why you don't feel like it. Sounds simple but sometimes it isn't. Very often, physical ailments-real or imagined-are allowed to interfere with being intimate. Sometimes you just are too tired and love making is the furthest thing from your mind. Whatever the case, be honest with your partner and then make a "date" when you know that you'll feel better or have more time to devote to each other. Don't use the old "I have a headache" excuse when you are really feeling disconnection from your partner. Deal with the issue and you'll feel better.

3. Focus on each other and not on the kids or your work. Clear your mind from extraneous thoughts, worries and fears when you come together for love-making. If it isn't possible to do that, tell your partner that you need some time and then take a walk to clear your head. You may need to talk about some problem or clear up some issue with your partner. Do it and then focus on how much you love each other.

There are many other things you can do to create more passion in your love making and increase your connection. It takes learning some new skills and creating some new ways of being together.

Swimwear that you'll feel comfortable in!

Finding the right swimwear can be a fun and also a stressful experience. You want to look your best in the swimwear of your choice at the beach. Light, colorful beach clothing will make you feel comfortable and cool. Some of the varieties you can find in swimwear are the following:Bikini -- This once-shocking is the granddaddy of fashion swimwear. Looks newest now in super-skimpy triangle, side-tie bottoms. Look for built-in push-up bras, underwire and sculpted cups for extra curves. Tankini -- A variation of the bikini, has a longer top that leaves only a small portion of the tummy exposed. Don't want to expose your tummy at all? Go for the mock tankini. Bandini -- A bikini with a bandeau (straight, striplike piece of fabric) top. Camikini -- Same as the tankini except the top looks like a camisole. Maillot -- One-piece suit (some creative types have even labeled a cut-out style the "monokini"). Boy legs -- A longer leg resembling really short shorts. Careful here -- tends to make the leg look shorter-- but still a favorite silhouette. Swimsuits are made of a material such as Lycra or Spandex that clings tightly to the swimmer but also permits a free range of motion. A swim cap worn over the hair and ears also helps to reduce the resistance a swimmer encounters when moving through the water. Swim goggles allow swimmers to see better under water. They also protect swimmers’ eyes from irritation caused by chlorine and other chemicals in the pool water, and from salt or pollution in natural bodies of water. Give some thought to which style of swimsuit you feel you would look best in. Whether it’s one-piece or two-piece you’ll feel most comfortable in the bathing suit that gives you the most confidence. Swimwear has changed a lot over the years, from suits that were bulky and awkward to swim in to the ultra tiny string bikinis of today.

How to Use Your Brain to Seduce Women

f you're one of those guys telling to yourself that AntonioBanderas might be a little prettier then you but again your IQbeats that of Einstein by an inch, than the next lines were written for you. You have to know how to use your advantage against a two-digit IQ macho-man and this is no easy deal. Some studies even say that intelligence alone is actually not too sexy to most people. Therefore it would be wiser to use intelligent ways to seduce a woman then just act smart.There are more ways to do this, some better and some worse. For example, you can be immoral enough to use your wits just to have sex, by manipulating women. For this "hit-and-run" approach you'll need a little more than just your intelligence, you'll have to know how the human mind, women's in particular, work in order to outsmart them, control the game and win it using their own weapons. But before you get to keen on the idea just remember that there are other, more honest ways of winning a woman's admiration.All of our actions, interacting with the opposite sex included,involve a little risk taking. If you think you are the hit-and-runtype of guy maybe you should watch Cruel Intentions and destroy all the excitement that comes with the game. But if you're not then just "go with the flow" and see what happens. Gamble a little and let romance play its natural role in a relationship.If you take things even further into consideration you might end up concluding that every single word and gesture we do when we interact with another person has its risky part in it. Saying "HI" to a stranger on the street, asking someone on a date, asking for her phone number in the middle of the date or trying to get the first kiss at the end of the night... There are always two possibilities: the YES possibility and the NO possibility. Butwould it be so exciting if you wouldn't take all these risks?Compare this interaction with a snow boulder! With each risk youdecided to take the boulder gets bigger and heavier. And if allgoes well it will get big enough to become unstoppable. That'swhen you can say that you have a real relation.Playing the game smartly also includes playing it honestly. Thehit-and-run guys pose as the feminist sensitive men while usingtheir wits to control the game and reach their goals. But sincerityis about something else, it's about being yourself.More than that it is about being comfortable with who you areentirely. It's about doing what you want to do and not fear thatyou will lose something because of your actions. And mostimportantly it's about honestly not want something in particularfrom a woman because seducing a woman is not a goal in itself, isnot a hunting game, nor a chess game. It's just our way of findingthe other half.

The Best Way to Pick Up a Girl

You see her across the room. Ah, so attractive. But nobody to introduce her to you. "Ah, I'll do a James Bond on her," you think. Now what was Bond's first words to Pussy Galore? "I must be dreaming." No, that won't work. How about singing "Underneath the Mango Tree" to her as Bond did to Honey Rider in "Dr. No". Ah? No!Well, what's left? You'll just have to go up and talk to her, if it's a situation where you won't see her again. But it's always safe to assume that she has a boyfriend that can squeeze the stuffings out of a gold ball. That aside, take a chance and make polite conversation. What's the worst that can happen. She says, "I'm sorry, I'm not available." and you save the time and money of a date with her. Like George Burns says, "When a beautiful woman says "no" to me, it's a relief.If you know that you will see her again, like at your university, your job, or working at a restaurant, you can have another shot at her and use the shy man's approach to getting a date. "You farm boys don't make a pitch, you just shy your way into position," Ann Margaret says to Pat Boone in "State Fair".Okay, here it is. Instead of asking her to dinner or out on a date which has romance intended, get some tickets to a concert or event first, and then with tickets in hand say, "I just happened to have tickets to this event. If you'd like to go with me, I'd be happy to take you." This way the subject is the event. Talk about the person singing at the concert, instead of if the two of you could hit it off or not. She can easily say yes or no, or ask more questions about you or the time and place of the event. She doesn't have the pressure of turning you down, so she can just turn the event down and that will be that. And if by chance she can't make that date, but is interested in you, she can start talking about going out another time.I've strongly suggested this "ticket" technique to both men and women who are infatuated with someone at work, or at shop, or restaurant, and have no idea how to make an approach. If the person is available, they usually say yes to an invitation. After all, it's just going to an event. It's not really a date. I used this "ticket" technique in college to ask out a beautiful stranger. I was very shy, but was "in love" from a distance so I had to take some kind of scary attraction. Her name was Cindy and I often saw her in the student lounge surrounded by guys. It took weeks of watching her before I could catch her walking alone, and ask her if she'd like to go see the reserved seat Cinerama showing of "Grand Prix". She said, "Well, I don't know you, but if you come and talk to me sometimes and I get to know you, then maybe."So in the next days I made an attempts at getting in a few words with her as she talked with her friends. Then I found out she was taking the film appreciation class that I had taken a semester earlier. So I pushed the teacher to show my new 16mm action film in the class that she was in. He fiqured I had a secret motive because he said he'd show it in the morning class, but I said it had to be shown in the afternoon class (the one Cindy was in). Finally, he agreed. I not only directed the film, but had a part in it where I used my newly learned karate and hoped she would be impressed. The film went over great with the class cheering and applauding. As she was leaving the class I said to her, "Well, do you know me well enough now?" She said, "To go out with you? I replied, "Yes." She smiled and nodded her head yes.So don't "ask her out". Don't "take her to dinner". Get some tickets, and maybe she'll answer you like Cameron Diaz does in "Charlie's Angels". "Tickets? I love tickets!"

Sensations Of A Kiss

Sensations of a KissDespite the relative tastelessness of kisses, they are usually referred to as sweet. Tasting of wine, strawberries and honey are some of the most common descriptions of lover’s kisses, although some poets are more creative. For example, The Song of Songs says, "Thy lips drip as the honeycomb, my spouse: Honey and milk are under thy tongue."The feeling of a kiss is also described in a multitude of ways, The pounding of the heart, quivering of the limbs, pain in the chest and quickening of the breath are some examples of this. The Persian poet Ha-fez, writes that he fears he will “char her delicate lips” when he writes of kissing his beloved.The Spirit Within a Kiss"At what else does that touching of lips aim but at a junction of souls?"Favorinus of ArlesThe Babylonian goddess of love, Ishtar, was said to hold life in her mouth, offering spiritual delight to those who worshipped her. “That rarest gift, the honeyed kiss of love/ On earth, is sweeter bliss than gods enjoy,” she tells one of her followers.Another example of the use of kisses as an exchange of life force or spirit is in the Egyptian legend of Osiris and Isis. When Osiris’ jealous brother, Set, threw him into the Nile, his wife Isis searched for his body in the river and breathed life into him through a kiss.The Renaissance saw a rapid rise in the view of kissing as an exchange of souls, and as an offering of the self to the other person. Allusions to kissing in poetry included an eternal kiss, a swoon that carried the couple almost to death, and most importantly, the diffusion of one soul into the body of the other. Perhaps one of the most potent notions of kissing revolves around the belief in its life force and vitality. The Romans particularly believed that kissing a dying lover would keep the spirit in the body longer. Ovid, particularly, mourns that his wife will not be able to extend his life with her love because of his exile. Kisses could even follow the dead into the Underworld as a comfort to the shades of the dead.

The Truth About Plus Size Beauty

Some of the sexiest women in the world are considered on the heavy side. Can a woman who wears a size 12 dress and lifts weights to keep fit considered sexy? Marilyn Monroe wore a size 12 dress. She actually lifted weights regularly to keep fit. Yet men found her incredibly sexy, a favourite pin up girl then, a sex symbol now, years after her tragic death. When Jennifer Lopez first started out, her critics said she wouldn't fo far, because her behind was way too big. Undaunted, she flaunted her curvy bottom. Now, women are going for butt implants, to be just like her. Guys like curvy women. Take Eminem's hit for example. Ass like that. It is basically about women with curvy bottoms. Plus size bottoms. Men do find big bottoms sexy. Plus size women can be sexy. Seriously. How sexy is a skeleton? If a woman's bones are showing through her skin, is she really sexy? Yet women, from teenage girls to mature grown ups who should know better, are starving themselves just because of that dress size. This thin is beautiful craze is relatively new. Primitive society regarded plump women as beautiful. Even classical master centuries ago created paintings of their beauties, who by todays standards are definitely plus sized. Thankfully, the hour glass figure is one beauty ideal that still remains. Women with big breasts and big hips, but with a small waist have always been considered very attractive. If you are plus size to begin with, with a big bust and round hips, you can get that hourglass figure by wearing plus size corsets. You can find those at http://www.women-plus-size-clothing.com/plus-size-corsets.htm . That look still prevails now, with the countless women undergoing surgery in order to have bigger breasts. On top of that, you can be plus size and healthy. Healthy women athletes who are big boned and muscular probably would not fit into regular clothes made for skeletons. Yet their bodies are strong, taut and sexy. Sure, some of the regular sized jeans might be too tight if you are a big boned runner, but you can still look gorgeous in good looking jeans meant for larger sizes, like these at http://www.women-plus-size-clothing.com/plus-size-jeans.htm . And forget about those pesky dress sizes. You can look amazingly sexy in beautiful plus size dresses like those found athttp://www.women-plus-size-clothing.com/plus-size-dresses.htm . These actually fit you and flatter your figure. A size 14 is a plus size, but when a woman is tall and strong, with lovely hair, pretty features and inner beauty, she is very beautiful. If you are plus size, celebrate your curves. Beauty is more than that number on the dress label. It is about your poise. Your confidence. The way you carry yourself. How well groomed you are. You hair. You features. The way you make the best of what you were born with. A glowing skin. A healthy body, regardless of the number on that label, is beautiful.

A Wedding Shower Invitation should be attractive and stylish!

Wedding shower invitations should lay out all of the necessary information, yet still be attractive. One way to do this is to have a picture engraved on the invitation. Ask your engraver to add a small design on the inside of your invitation or wherever you have information about the reception. If, for example, an ice cream social is your theme see if there is an ice cream cone or Sundae dish they can emboss onto the paper without taking away from the main body of the invitation. Remember that subtlety is stylish; you don’t want to come across as overpowering with your theme. It may be difficult sometimes to know who to invite to the wedding shower. As a general rule, the wedding shower hostess or hostesses should invite all family members of both the bride and the groom. She should also invite close friends of the bride and the bride's family. She may also want to invite some of the bride-to-be's co-workers. She should be sure to consult with the bride when compiling the guest list. Try to organize the people invited so some will set up the wedding shower game, someone else will set up the wedding shower favor, and so on. What do I put on a wedding Shower Invitation? The wedding shower invitation should include the name of the bride to be, the date and time of the shower, and the address and phone number of the hostess/hostesses. If you are concerned about the attendance at your wedding shower, consider including on the invitation a deadline date for the RSVP. (This is usually about two weeks prior to the shower date.) It may be difficult to make up a wedding shower invitation without prior experience. Because of this, it may be a good idea to have the same person who did your bridal shower invitation to also do your wedding shower invitation.

Cheap Wedding Party Gift Ideas

Thanking your wedding party with special gifts is a favored tradition. Depending on the size of your wedding party it can be an expensive one as well. With so much money spent on the wedding ceremony and the reception, this can often be an aspect of the ceremony that you can have a hard time in deciding upon because it can be difficult to find inexpensive, original and thoughtful items that will be good enough to express your appreciation to your wedding party. Here are some great and unique gift ideas that are not expensive: · Personalized shot glasses · Personalized candles · Personally engraved items such as ornaments, plaques etc. · Personalized musical CD recordings commemorating the ceremony and reception music such as bride and groom’s songs etc. · Specially labeled wine bottles commemorating your special day · A personalized picture frame of the wedding of the wedding party · Make your own wine and give a bottle to each guest · Make beaded bracelets with you and your couples initials on them and the date of your wedding These are just some ideas, but you get the general thoughts on this matter. Of course, there are literally millions of gift ideas that you could choose from or create with your own hands. All you have to do is think about how you would like to say thanks, and what you can afford to do. Here are some other suggestions to help your with your creative ideas. Personalized bottle stopper Personalized magnets Personalized mini chocolates

Sexual Attraction… I Slept With Elvis

The girl says to her girlfriend, “Elvis has such sexual attraction I just couldn’t resist and I slept with him on the first date! Then I discover he does not have good husband qualities and he is just a ladies man. He has such an aurora such an attraction I just couldn’t resist and I just can’t believe I did it.” It happens every day ladies.
Look out girls here comes the King of Seduction. Elvis will drop you to your knees with sexual energy that will have you dreaming for days, but when you come out of Elvis’s spell you will be on a waiting list to see Elvis again. Can you deal with it my dear? Elvis is looking for a wife but he expects it will take another 30 years to find the perfect girl. He is the ultimate playboy of playboys. He is the guru of the guru’s. The guy the experts go to when they have problems with girls.
Elvis is Not exactly the perfect candidate from most women’s point of view. So ladies if you date Elvis Preston King you risk being dumped for the next pretty face that comes along. Believe me when Elvis walks down to the corner a new pretty face will step around the corner and she too will be Elvis’s girl. Consider yourself warned my darlings. So my little dream girl what have you got to loose if you don’t have sex on the first date with Elvis. A hot night with Elvis Preston King, of course!
But lets look at Elvis’s position of the top playboy in the world from the wanna be pick up artists view. Men like to get laid. Elvis gets laid every day by new and exciting European girls. They love that American accent “thank you very much mam.”
Elvis is the world’s number 1 pick up artist, the king of seduction and has not written a book and he does not put on seminars but he is looking for a buddy who wants to hang out and meet a zillion beautiful girls. Is Elvis a nice guy? What make the difference if he can get you laid like that? Can Elvis get you laid? Dahhh…think about it….

Wedding Photography That will last a lifetime

Having pictures that you can look at in the years that follow your wedding is just one of the things that you want to invest your money in. But if you’re on a constricted budget, then there are also options for you.
Things to consider
One of the main things to consider when it comes to photography is what you want from your pictures. Do you want pictures of your while family or mainly of the two of you? If it a larger wedding or is a more private celebration?
You and your soon-to-be spouse should sit down and list all of the pictures that you would like to have in your wedding album—that is, poses for pictures. With this list, you’ll be able to see if you should invest in a professional or consider other options.
Where do you want your pictures taken? Some couples like to have outdoor shots, so they will need to find a photographer that does that as part of their services. The length of time you would like the photographer to be at the wedding will also factor into the price.
Look at photographer samples to see if your styles match. If they don’t, the photographer may recommend someone else. They want you to have good pictures, even if it’s not with them.
When you’re on a budget
If you’re nervous about spending a lot of money on your photographer, but still want a lot of pictures—you’re in luck. With the new and improved digital cameras, you have a better shot (no pun intended) to get great pictures.
Have a good friend (who isn’t in the wedding party) volunteer to take the pictures. Since digital cameras show you what the picture looks like instantly, you can take as many as you need in order to get it just right. And the quality is just as good as many professional photographers.
Another way to get a lot of chances for good pictures is to place disposable cameras at every table. People love to take pictures of other people, so you’ll get a lot of candid shots of your relatives and friends. Plus, the quality is pretty good, so you’re not wasting your money at all.
It doesn’t matter who takes your pictures as long as you get the ones that you want. If you want to have someone else do it, then invest in the professional. But for the budget conscious, having a friend or relative take charge is just as good.

Learn About The Latest Trends In Cosmetics Now

The days of bright blue eye shadow and slathered on blush are gone with the wind! If you are in desperate need of a make up freshen up, consider these hot trends in cosmetics. These latest colors, tips, and techniques are just what anyone needs to update a look or make the change into a new season. Remember that your cosmetics do have an expiration date, so keep this in mind when shopping for new make up. With each season, carefully look through your make up kit and discard any items that are outdated. This is critical, especially with eye make up that can expire and potentially cause painful infections. Also, remember not to share your make up with anyone else to prevent spread of germs and infection.
Today’s latest trends in cosmetics reflect the fashion trends—shimmer and shine! From super glossy lip gloss to candy like eye make up with glitter to make your eyes truly pop. This trend only applies to eyes, lips, and nails, however, since cream and matte finishes is hot for foundations, powders, and blush. In addition to shimmer and shine, the color of eye and lip make up is quite subtle. Gone are the vibrant colors and eye popping shades of eye shadow. Instead, pale browns, ivories, grays, tans, and other natural colors are all the rage. Lip shades are also a bit more subdued, with a nude lip or a sheer pink gloss being incredibly hot.
Lipstick is out today, with lip gloss taking over the first place in purses all over the country. These lip glosses are made in every color under the sun and many mimic the appearance of lipstick with a much smoother and glossier look. For individuals looking to care for their lips and enjoy that terrific nude lip look, consider using a simple hydrating stick. The all natural brand, Bert’s Bees, produces a phenomenal product that can be applied under a gloss or used by itself.
The days of pressed powder may be numbered; as today’s hot products include cream powders that go on thick but dries sheer and ultra light. This option is great for individuals who would like a bit more coverage than pressed powder offers, but do not want to deal with the mess and hassle of using foundation. Another popular trend along this line is the cream blush, which also goes on like a cream but dries a powder. Also, cream blushes prevent that unnatural coloring that appears on many women’s cheeks.

Get The Latest Scoop On What Fashions Are Out

Just as fashion ebbs and flows, yesterday’s fashion ins are shut out in the cold! A true fashionista keeps careful track of what items have jumped to the out list. No one wants to be seen in a trend that expired yesterday, so if you are used to wearing trendy items, you may want to keep an eye out to see what’s out! The ever revolving door that is the fashion industry regularly makes and breaks fads in the blink of an eye. Look to your fashion magazines, cable channels that specialize in clothing and style, or great articles on the World Wide Web to determine when it is time to hang up your out clothing and accessories.
What’s out this season:
1.) Say good-bye to low cut pants today
The parents of the world let out a collective sigh when the ultra low cut pant waist line was declared dead. The days of a thong peeking out from the back of your trousers are a thing of the past, so pack away your crack-baring duds for their next time around! Today’s fashionable pants still feature a lower cut that seasons past—including the popular above-the-navel waistline of the 1950s—but are well above the modesty mark than in the recent past.
2.) Personalized Items are so old school, don’t ya know
Unless that “L” on your sweater stands for Laverne, put it away! The era of personalized items, from jewelry (remember the “Carrie” necklace?) to purses to clothing is in the past. Even though you searched an hour at your local bargain basement store to find that bag with your initial embroidered in leather, it’s time to say goodbye.
3.) Newsboy Hats Are Yesterday’s News
Extra, extra, read all about it: newsboy hats are out! Put down those papers, get off the corner, and ditch the hat! Even though cooler weather has arrived, find another way to keep your head warm than covering up in a newsboy hat. Consider donning a jaunty fedora cocked to one side—it’s the latest rage!
If you are concerned about items in your wardrobe or accessory closet becoming out of date, consider purchasing classic items. Look into wardrobe staples that are permanently found on the in list, so you will not have to juggle and reevaluate your closet. Furthermore, you may find a piece of clothing or accessory that you absolutely love has been retired to the out list. Instead of giving up a favorite, consider alternative ways to turn an out into an in!

Choosing Wine on a First Date

First dates are nerve wracking enough without having to worry about what wine to choose to impress your new friend!
One of the great things about wine on a date is that one bottle is a defined amount, normally about five glasses. If shared equally it is unlikely that you will fall off your chair drunk after half a bottle of wine!
However, there are some other social sins that can be committed whilst choosing wine on a date.
Getting Started
First, you need to decide whether you want white, red, rosé or sparkling wine. This is perhaps the most important decision. As a general rule, red wine is more of an acquired taste and it can be harder to select a good red. Therefore, when you do not know your companion's tastes it may be wise to steer clear of the red wine section.
Sparkling wine can make you appear a little pretentious or if you go for a cheaper version, a tightwad; so this is usually best avoided. If you are not sure whether your companion likes wine at all, rosé wine is often a safe option as it often lacks the sharpness that people commonly dislike in wines.
How Much to Spend?
Remember more money doesn't always mean more quality. If you are very new to wine, go for a house white. A house white is unlikely to be extremely imaginative or unusual, but is almost always perfectly drinkable. For this reason it is a safe, middle of the road option.
If you want to impress, look for something other than the house white. Keep away from extremes until you know your companion a little better, so don't go for bone dry whites. Instead, opt for a fruity dry wine that appeals to those who like both dry and medium whites.
Whilst neutral wines may seem like a bit of a cop-out, bear in mind that you simply want a drinkable wine that does not offend.
If you are really not sure what to choose, why not offer your companion a choice of glasses as an aperitif while you have a beer or spirit. This way you can judge your companion's taste. Even if they select a spirit, you can still get a measure of whether they prefer sweet or dry wines.
Of course, you could always give your companion the choice…

Flattering Styles For Women With Curves

Are you one of those fabulous women that has curves, and you would like to know a fun way of showing them off? There are several ways to make your figure look the way that you want. It is all in the manner that you carry yourself. Being confident and following a few basic rules on how to dress will make you look like the woman you want to be.
The first rule is to go out and buy the correct size bra. A good bra will make your outfits look the way that they should. Having curves is a wonderful thing to have, but you need to know how to make them fit right with your clothing style. It is amazing what a great bra can do for your figure.
The second rule is buying clothes that are the right size for you. So, go ahead and throw away all those clothes that are too baggy on you. Say hello to a more fun, alive figure. Stop hiding it. Wearing sizes too big or small for your body frame will only accentuate your weight, and not your lovely curves. You do not want to wear shapeless styles. Try wearing semi-fitted separates. It will make you look taller and thinner, and make it look like you have a more sculpted waist. Wear tops that just skim your waist and hips. Jackets should be worn just to the length of your fingertips. As for your bottoms, select clothes that tend to taper downwards. It will look better than other styles. Skirts will look good if they are not too high. If you can sit in your skirt without it ridding up on you, then you are all set. Shift dresses are great especially with a round neckline. It will even out your proportions wonderfully.
The third rule is not to wear anything that is too bold, and that calls extra attention to yourself. That means no super bold prints, no big patch pockets, no oversized buttons or bows, and no horizontal patterns. You want to wear a nice crisp line of color, and then accessorize with just a few simple accessories such as jewelry or a scarf. Sometimes even just wearing one solid color all over is great look. It will add height to your frame, and shrink your width.
The last rule is very easy. You should buy the best quality that you can afford. Quality fabrics can make all the difference in how you look. Fine fabrics look better than stiff fabrics that can add inches onto your body. In addition, well-made clothes will hold their shape better. Better shape will improve your shape too. If you follow all these rules, you will look and feel better. So go out, and let your light shine. Better clothes, for a better you!

Want To Make Perfume Last Longer?

All your life you may have been looking for that perfect scent. You may have gone to different shops, sniffed so many bottles, and spritz on a little amount of each on your wrists. It’s an outwearing process but at least you found the one. However, you noticed something. Why is it that every time you wear it, the scent doesn’t stay that long? It does seem like you’re just wasting away that perfect perfume. So, to save you from getting your perfume wasted and from feeling perfume-frustrated, here are useful ways to make perfume stay longer all-day and all-night.
1. Do the skin check. Before applying perfume, see to it that you have washed your skin. Examine closely if you have skin issues that may result in an unpleasant smell or odor. Never use perfume in hiding body or skin odor for it will only work shortly and soon the odor will overwhelm the perfume’s fragrance. Thus, it is important to seek professional help when it comes to body or skin issues that are interrupting the overall effect of your perfume. Most importantly, ensure that you don’t have any skin irritations or sores before using any perfume. Unpleasant body odor may result from this.
2. Bear in mind that perfume is not deodorant or antiperspirant. Perfume and antiperspirant/deodorant serves different purposes. So don’t use one to replace the other. Make sure that you’re not wearing perfume as an antiperspirant or deodorant. If you’re worried that a deodorant’s smell will overpower your perfume’s fragrance, don’t be. In contrast, deodorants or antiperspirants help heighten the perfume’s effect since they remove unwanted body odor.
3. Moisture prolongs perfume. If you may not have known it, perfume works well in an environment that is moist. Thus before applying, examine closely the condition of your skin. If it’s dry then it’s about time that you put on moisturizer to help improve its moisture content. You must take into consideration buying a moisturizer or lotion that has similar smell or scent with your perfume.
4. Discover the pressure points. Common pressure points are your neck, wrists and the back of your knees. Before you spray on them, make sure they’re moist enough so as to maximize the staying power of perfume.
5. Store perfume in the right place. Make sure perfumes are kept in a place not too cold and not too hot. Ensure that bottles are covered with the right lids to prevent the scent from evaporating.

7 rules for a stress-free life

1  See eye-to-eye with your job
“The situation can never be greater than you are,” he says. “If it is, you’re never going to be able to engage and give your full talent, because you’re not looking at it eye-to-eye.”

2  Learn the sneaky workout
McConaughey has those days, too: no
exercise time. He compensates with active bursts throughout the day. “I’ll drop and give myself 20 pushups at intervals. Also I have a 5.5kg medicine ball. I’ll think, pick up the medicine ball and don’t put it down for 30 minutes.”

3  Customise your to-do list
“I’ll put fun things on my list to give me more things to cross off,” he says. “Like, ‘surf for an hour’. When you get to the one near the bottom and it says, ‘Watch Monday Night football’, it’s like, yeah!”

4  Adopt a simple philosophy
Some of life’s biggest stressors are the remains of self-destructive things you do. “I don’t like to leave crumbs,” he says. “I like to do things right, and not cheat to get ‘em done. I don’t owe anybody anything. I never go anywhere and worry, ‘Oh shit, so-and-so’s here.’”

5  Insulate yourself
McConaughey explains with a metaphor: “I like to create my own weather so then I can blow in the wind. If you’ve got positive, likeminded people around you, then your systems are in place. I don’t have to be looking over my shoulder. I can just blow in the wind.”

6  Know what you don’t know
Fighting to prove you know something when you don’t wastes time and sucks energy. “‘I don’t know’ can be perceived as a weakness, but I see it as a sign of intelligence. How else will you learn something new?” he asks.

7  Schedule the pleasure, too
How much pleasure do you really allow yourself to have every day? “You have to be more fl exible and enjoy things. Lighten up! It’s your lifestyle, not your life.”

A definition of fashion

1. The prevailing style or custom, as in dress or behavior: out of fashion.
2. Something, such as a garment, that is in the current mode: a swimsuit that is the latest fashion.
3. The style characteristic of the social elite: a man of fashion.

To some, fashion is an art form. To others, it is almost a religion.

But for most people it is a method of utilizing clothing, accessories and hair to show or hide something about yourself.

You can use fashion to express yourself, to serve as an extension of your personality: goth, skater, soccer mom, professional.

Or you can use fashion to disguise your true self:a conservative in vamp clothing, a vamp in conservative clothing.

Fashion statements can be made with clothes, accessories, shoes, hair, makeup, even your cellphone.

TYPES OF SEXUAL KISSES

Australian Kiss
Like a French kiss, but down under.
Naked-at-the-Door Kiss
Meet your partner at the door naked when they come home. Grab him by the belt and pull him to the couch on top of you and kiss him passionately. This always leads to more!
Nipple Kiss
While you have a moment to yourselves, gently kiss, lick, and suck on your partner's nipple. Blowing on it makes it cold and gives a great sensation, while lightly nibbling will make your partner go wild. This kiss will definitely lead to more.
Pull Up Kiss
As you are making out passionatley with your lover, stop mid-kiss and move your head down to were his or her shiirt ends, Pull it up and gently kiss their belly. Start taking thier shirt off and move up their torso. When you reach their chest, kiss, nibble and suck. It will have your partner aroused in seconds!
Shaba Kiss
Get down on one knee. Softly lift your partners shirt and move down towards the hips, kissing what is revealed. Rotate your tongue while you're kissing. This kiss can definitely lead to more.
Side-on Lining Kiss
(For males). Gently pass your hand down the body of your partner, then slowly pull down the panty a bit. Lightly kiss on the impressions left on the hip by the elastic of the panty. This is a very sensuous kiss.
Strip Kiss
Only try this kiss if you are very close to your partner. Start French kissing your partner. Stop and slowly take off their shirt. Resume kissing. Stop again and kneel to one knee. Take off your partner's socks, shoes, and pants, leaving them in their underwear.
Thigh Kiss
Gently kiss your partner behind the knee and slowly kiss your way up her thigh. It will drive her mad.



History of Kissing
History of Kissing
Humans have a long history of kissing. Europeans kiss both cheeks. Parents kiss their child's cheek. The Intuit rub noses. The french kiss by... ;). Kissing, both casual and romantic, is a common practice, but but we really don't know where or how it began.There are several different theories as to how kissing all began:
In ancient times, a mother would chew up food and pass it directly to the mouth of her baby. What started as a sign of affection between mother and child most likely spread to romantic relationships. However, some cultures had the same practice of passing food to their children, but knew nothing about kissing.
Some believed that our souls lived in our breath and that kissing brings your soul together, thus combining you together for eternity. This is a romantic theory, but not really one that can be proven true.
Kissing gets you close enough to your partner to smell their scent, giving you knowledge of the person. Animals practice a similar behavior by rubbing against each other.
The theories are just that though. There is no proof or record of where and how kissing originally began. We do know that Europeans were kissing during the Greek and Roman times. It also appears that some form of kissing may have started in India as there are texts from around 1500 B.C. that describe the custom of rubbing noses together, now commonly referred to as 'Eskimo Kissing'.While we don't know for sure when or where kissing first began, the reference to 'Eskimo Kissing' supports the theory that kissing gets you close to your partner in order to pick up on their scent. When you inhale your partner's scent, you subconsciously learn a lot about the other person by their smell. As we previously noted, most animals engage in a similar behavior.It seems then that the modern romantic kiss most likely evolved as a way of unconsciously testing the genetic fitness of a potential mate. While this may be the underlying reason as to why we began kissing, it's not really the main reason as to why we continue to practice it. The reason is simple: it feels good, it evokes feelings of passion, and it's a physical connection between ourselves and our partners.However the kiss began, we're thankful. :)

Body language to arouse sex instinct..

A woman with her body language can easily instigate and beckon a man towards her. There are a number of such body languages that a woman can display in order to arouse sexual instincts in men. It has been found that sometimes the body shows certain signals that come out unconsciously and sometimes it is knowingly done or purposefully displayed. Women today are still using much of the same body language to attract men that their ancient ancestors used and men still fall for women's tricks.Here are such body languages both by men and women. Women have more flirting body languages that they use or adopt in order to evoke sexual desires in men. Entwining her legs (men can't do this one because their hips are too narrow) draws a mans attention. However, it indicates she is very protective and closed to sexual advances from men. Her tight leg muscles are appealing to a man but are his challenge to untangle.Another great preening move men enjoy watching is for a woman to do things calling attention to her mouth. Licking her lips, putting on lipstick, or eating something slowly with obvious great pleasure is stimulating to men. Just watching her mouth make men hungry for all of her. If she is clever, she exposes some bare skin in the process. This is where the guy accidentally misses his mouth and pours his drink in his lap while trying "not to look".
Men can also use effective flirting body languages to attract women. A man can enter walking slowly with good posture and no extra movements. If you make more extra movements then it shows that you have no control over your actions and you are not sure of what to do and what not to do. So walking should be smart enough with your thumbs in the front pocket. If you are seated, keep any of your personal objects like keys, drink, food and coins to demarcate your territory. Sometimes your smoking can attract a woman, though she would never like her husband to smoke. However, some women might enjoy watching her boy friend smoking. Eye contact can at times be very effective as eyes are the reflection of your mind and what you are thinking about. Thus eye contact can lead to arouse sexual instinct in a person.A man can be instigated by any woman. It is easier for a woman to attract a man in comparison to a man attracting a woman. A woman has the potential to arouse sexual desire to such an extent that he is not in the position to think with his brain and becomes a prey to a woman. Certain body languages can thus be very destructive in killing the mind of a man. A woman looks seductive in a very trivial state, maybe with water on her body, just by eating slowly, exposing a little bit, and showing a bit of skin. However, a man should keep in mind that love can never arise from such overtly display of skin show.

WHAT IS SUCCESS?

“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a little better; whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is the meaning of success.” -AnonIn the spring of 1871, a young man picked up a book and read twenty- one words that had a profound effect on his future. A medical student at the Montreal General Hospital, he was worried about passing the examinations, worried about what to do, how to make a living, how to be successful.The twenty- one words that this young man read in 1871 changed his life and helped him to become the most famous physician of his generation. His name was Sir William Osler. Here are those twenty- one words which made him such a successful person. “Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance but to do what lies clearly at hand.”“Science,” said the French philosopher Valery “is a collection of successful recipes” that is what I have written above: a recipe to success.I can look back at my own life and see where I was distressed and then how praised which I received changed my entire future. Can’t you say the same thing about your life? History is replete with striking illustrations of the sheer witchery of praise.‘In the early nineteenth century a young man aspired to be a writer but everything was against him. He had never attended school more than four years. His father was in jail and this young man had very little confidence in his ability to write. He had a job of pasting labels of blacking. He lived in a wretched attic room with two other guys. He sent his first manu script in dead of night so nobody would laugh at him. Story after story was refused. Finally, the great day came when an editor praised and agreed to publish his story. He was so thrilled that he wandered aimlessly around the street wailing. That recognition and praise honored him as one of the most well- known writers. You may have heard of that boy. His name was Charles Dickens’. (Carnegie 1934, 228) Not only Charles Dickens, Enrico Caruso- the great opera singer, H.G. Wells and many other numerous eminent personalities fought against there all obstacles with the support of praise to reach their destiny. “Success is nothing, just winning over failure.” This is somehow right my friends. Success is not only being at the top but, success is when you learn from your mistakes and then triumph over them. Your previous failures become a point of your success. “Don’t be discouraged by a failure. It can be a positive experience. Failure is, in a sense, the highway to success, inasmuch as every discovery of what is false leads us to seek earnestly after what is true, and every fresh experience points out some form of error which we shall afterwards carefully avoid.” John Keats avowed succinctly."A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him." - David Brink Friends, when someone criticizes you, don’t get disappointed and start being like a child but, boost up your confidence and again try your task and never stop till you accomplish it. Hope you enjoyed reading these famous quotes for being successful in life.SO, SUCCESS NOW LIES CLEARLY IN YOUR OWN HANDS !!

Indian women in USA - Life of Desi girls in America

Indian women come to USA as a student for higher studies, on business trip, as a dependent when they get married and join their spouse working in USA or as a visitor for few months. Life of Indian women in USA is pretty much the same as in India. With large Desi population in America, Indian communities spread throughout. In some places like California, New Jersey, Texas, Illinois etc, there are lot of Indian people who are living there for many years, and it will be almost like 'little India'. With the technology growing rapidly, we are able to communicate and stay connected with their loved ones quiet often. Talking regularly, sharing pictures, viewing online by the web cam all make them feel at home .
Women students coming to USA for studies is increasing these days. With so many terrible, negative incidents happening to students in colleges in USA, it may be daunting to them, but as this is for personal growth, they have to take a bold step. Being away from the home land, it is very important that they are aware and alert of the situations around them and learn to be safe. My advice to students would be 'Be the same as how you would be in your home, when you are being watched and cared by parents and the loved ones'. If, it is wrong and you would not do this at home, don't do hit here too. Simple! Do a good research on the place that you would land in for your studies, know about the safe neighborhoods to live, way to commute, insurance, accessibility to college and shopping your daily needs. Get advice from the students who studied or is studying there. Look out for some Indian contacts, friends, may be a friend of friends or so, who is living in your chosen area, which will always be helpful. Make good friends in college, have fun! Like anywhere else, walking around the streets late-night is dangerous here too. One has to be open-minded and out-going but not to the extent that you place yourself in danger. Keep in mind the purpose of you being in USA is studies and personal growth, see to that and enjoy the fullest, be vigilant, safe and enjoy.When women is on business trip to United States, mostly, companies will arrange their stay, commute etc, also they will already have friends, colleagues living there who can help them. They sometime come in groups too, so it will be quiet easy and comfortable for them, to handle things abroad when they have company. They stay together, shop for groceries, cook food and have fun as they work. They have great time during the weekends visiting places, families, shopping, watching movies etc. Working women, living in USA with their family, feel little tough to balance work and home, yet they get going too. If they have small kids and there is no one to take care of, they put them in a good day care and work. Sometimes, their parents or in-laws visit them, so that it will be lot helpful and they can worry less about the kids. Dependent women, who are not working, are take care of house hold chores, pick up and dropping of kids at schools, kids studies, shopping and they get some time to engage themselves in doing what they like, developing their hobbies. They also do some voluntary services at the local library, churches, public schools etc. They get around with other families living in their neighborhood making friends, doing some chit chat at times, letting all the kids to play together and mingle with one another, arranging pot-luck get-together. When ever there are some Indian festivals, there will be some special services at the temples, or at community halls so you get to meet all the Indians living in that area. Women travel to USA on different purpose. Totally, USA is a good place to live. You may feel out of place, as soon as you land. You may miss your loved ones, fun filled festivals, lively day to day experiences in your mother land, yet your life goes on. As time goes on, you get used to the place and people, and get to enjoy life!